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Old 10-30-2014, 08:08 PM   #1
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Ds, 29 mos, has gotten into this ridiculous sleep pattern. He will sleep 9-10 hours straight thru at night, then wake. He's done this for about 6 months, but he used to nurse and go back to sleep for another hour or two. Now he's up and won't go back to sleep, but he's not fully rested and he's cranky. He will have a cranky morning and crash back out 10:30 or 11. Nap for an hour or hour and a half. And then refuse to sleep until late at night. Last night I put him to bed at 8 and he did not fall asleep until 10.

The few freak days where he's actually slept 11-12 hours at night he doesn't nap, does just fine, and quickly sleeps at night. So I would love for him to drop the nap but I don't know how to make that happen. He just won't stay asleep long enough most nights and he's just collapsing by late morning so I can't imagine trying to keep him up.

What is this? Is this a stage? What can I do?
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Old 10-30-2014, 10:26 PM   #2
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I'm thinking it's a stage. My little E did something similar for a couple of months before he finally decided (much to my dismay at first, until I realized how much easier nights were) to drop his nap. Once a week or so he still takes a nap, and then he's up late.
We're not totally out yet, but I'm thinking (hoping, praying) that it's a stage.

I'm sure some more experienced mamas will jump in soon too.

It's nice to know we're not alone. I'm for advice.
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Sounds to me like he's dropping his nap. Which can be a rough process.
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Old 10-31-2014, 06:29 AM   #4
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Sounds like no nap transition and IME you just have to wait it out.My youngest eventually settled into that 12 hrs at night with no nap ad it was great! 9 - 9
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Sleep got weird for us at about that age. She went through a no nap phase while she sorted out how much time night time sleep she needed. She ultimately went from sleeping 12 hrs at night with a nap to about 10 hrs a night with a nap. But dropped the nap while she got to the 10 hr mark. She really doesn't sleep more than 10 hrs now even without a nap on the rare occasion she doesn't nap so I'm pretty protective of her nap time during the day.
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You can try waking him from his nap after 30 min or so. It'll either be a dismal failure or help nights go better. Unfortunately the process of dropping that last nap can be really rough for everyone. And it can take a while, too.

The silver lining is once you're done with it, nights go really smoothly.
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Yeah, it seems like he sleeps so much better without a nap that I just want him to drop it already.

And it just seems weird... I thought kids would have a later and later nap when getting ready to drop it, but mine is having an earlier and earlier one.
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Why did you think it would be later and later? Mine were definitely earlier and earlier. Also, if he's growing or teething that will compound things so you might want to explore pain as a reason for not going down as easily
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Ugh. Yes, we've been going through something similar. Except he doesn't sleep through apart from a rare occasion. He's been 'about' to drop his nap for…oh, I dunno…like 6 months now? Maybe more? With no sign of an actual decision on his part.

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When I ran a daycare classroom a lot of the kids (especially the boys) dropped their nap at that age and then most took it up again in a few months. My oldest did that too (I was glad he was one of the one's who resumed napping cause man was it rough).

It's really hard. Try to make the evening as relaxing as possible (quiet music, dim lights, long bath time) and there's a chance bedtime will be easier. There's also a chance you'll have a child bouncing on your head while you're playing dead in a dark room listening to Chopin Nocturnes. Yeah, it was rough.
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Before mine dropped a nap entirely they moved it up in the day and dropped an afternoon nap. If they did get an afternoon nap nights were horrible. It is an annoying transition with some children.
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When my grandson was younger and they were staying with us we would def do the quieter volume and ighting and talking thing and he often would go to sleep out in family area and then transfer to bed
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