When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom?

kiloyd · 02-19-2015, 08:17 PM

I was thinking about this today. We were actually discussing this at the supper table tonight. DS1 said something about whatever it is I call that I do.

Dh said domestic engineer.

I told them that when I was a child that Grandma called herself a homemaker. And I think it was even a choice on some surveys of jobs (maybe, I could be wrong on that).

I like Homemaker much better than SAHM, it actually describes what I do, make our home.

Soliloquy · 02-19-2015, 08:40 PM

I agree. It's the word I use when speaking. I type SAHM because it's easier.

heartofjoy · 02-19-2015, 08:41 PM

I always put homemaker or home worker. Or homeschooling parent. I've never used the term sahm.

domesticzookeeper · 02-19-2015, 08:47 PM

http://www.slate.com/articles/double...homemaker.html

Tasmanian Saint · 02-19-2015, 09:06 PM

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Kiara.I · 02-19-2015, 10:00 PM

I don't like any of the terms I've come across. I try to avoid using them as much as possible.

melliethepooh · 02-19-2015, 10:18 PM

I don't think they're synonymous...

AngelaVA · 02-20-2015, 04:20 AM

I am a stay at home mom (actually a homeschooling mom) and not a home maker. I define it that way because I am home specifically because of the kids and their needs I am not working to achieve any high standards of house keeping or other domestic skills.

2sunshines · 02-20-2015, 04:51 AM

Well, technically a sahm is a homemaker, but a homemaker is not necessarily a sahm, right? Although I guess technically they are two different jobs.

Most sahm's also are homemakers. But you technically could be a sahm and purposely NOT be a homemaker, right?

Back in "the day" women generally tended to their homes, regardless of having children or not.

Today, it's sort of rare (isn't it??? I think it is...) to find a woman who is a "homemaker" with no kids, or at least no kids yet. It's common for older women to continue to stay home after raising their kids, but I don't think (again, I may be wrong), it's very common for women to be homemakers pre-kids.

Saoirse · 02-20-2015, 05:17 AM

Personally, I've always preferred "Domestic Goddess."

MaySunflowers · 02-20-2015, 05:41 AM

I don't actually "say" either. I just say I'm a mom, if people want to ask if I have a career then I will say no. I feel like homemaker or stay-at-home-mom is some term that people have come up with as though they need to make themselves feel as important as people with jobs. I'm just me, I don't need a title.

I don't know if those are my MB letters talking or what.

CelticJourney · 02-20-2015, 05:48 AM

I think the change was intended to show the priority of focus. Homemaker was associated with the 1950's perfect housekeeper and 'dinner on the table at 6' myth. 'Stay at home mom' came, it seems, to show a choice to focus on our kids, but trying not to antagonize our 'work outside the home mom' sisters.

Chaos Coordinator · 02-20-2015, 06:10 AM

I do think it had to do with the shift of focus.

FaithnPraise · 02-20-2015, 07:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by domesticzookeeper

http://www.slate.com/articles/double...homemaker.html

I'm reading this...very, very interesting!

Hopetobe · 02-20-2015, 08:50 AM

to read the link

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02-19-2015, 08:17 PM	#1
kiloyd Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: South Carolina Posts: 16,108	When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom? I was thinking about this today. We were actually discussing this at the supper table tonight. DS1 said something about whatever it is I call that I do. Dh said domestic engineer. I told them that when I was a child that Grandma called herself a homemaker. And I think it was even a choice on some surveys of jobs (maybe, I could be wrong on that). I like Homemaker much better than SAHM, it actually describes what I do, make our home. __________________ k-i-loyd, not kill loyd ISFJ/P Katherine, married 8-9-97 ds1 22 (adding a dil in August!) dd1 18 dd2 16 ds2 10

02-19-2015, 08:40 PM	#2
Soliloquy Rose Garden Why climb a mountain? Because it's there! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Selkirk Mountains Posts: 52,860	Re: When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom? I agree. It's the word I use when speaking. I type SAHM because it's easier.

02-19-2015, 08:41 PM	#3
heartofjoy Moderator Assign positive intent Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 9,610	Re: When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom? I always put homemaker or home worker. Or homeschooling parent. I've never used the term sahm. __________________ Desiree, mom to 5 sweet blessings, Lacy 24, Jordan 22, Joanna 20, Emma 19, and Ethan 17

02-19-2015, 08:47 PM	#4
domesticzookeeper Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 10,115	Re: When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom? http://www.slate.com/articles/double...homemaker.html __________________ emily

02-19-2015, 09:06 PM	#5
Tasmanian Saint Rose Trellis Go Team Lioness! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: This side of the black stump Posts: 2,428	Re: When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom? Sent from my GT-S5300 using Tapatalk 2 __________________ Our blossoms: DS "Little Bear" Apr '07 - The negotiator DD "Miss Muffett" Nov '08 "Don't tell Daddy..." DS "Mouse" Jan '12 "I Soup Baby, Man of steel! " Myth Busting over at Dare to Disciple "Believe in yourself. Trust your instincts. Unless your instincts are terrible." Vitruvius, The LEGO Movie.

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Kiara.I Rose Garden Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: The Pacific South-West. You know, north of the Pacific North-West Posts: 12,922	Re: When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom? I don't like any of the terms I've come across. I try to avoid using them as much as possible. __________________ ENTP fits me to a T, though it took me forever to figure it out! DYT Type 3, Enn. Type 1 (hold that thought...enneagram crisis...might be a 7!) Sparks (9) ; Spitfire (8); Sprite (4.5)

02-19-2015, 10:18 PM	#7
melliethepooh Rose Garden Dinosaurs are people too Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 5,981	Re: When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom? I don't think they're synonymous... __________________ Melinda, INTJ Married to Mr since 12/06 ENTP Mama to all the babies, 1/09 ISTJ and 11/11 ExxP and 5/14 ExxP and NEW ONE 8/16

02-20-2015, 04:20 AM	#8
AngelaVA Rose Garden Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Virginia Posts: 11,512	Re: When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom? I am a stay at home mom (actually a homeschooling mom) and not a home maker. I define it that way because I am home specifically because of the kids and their needs I am not working to achieve any high standards of house keeping or other domestic skills. __________________ Wife to David since July 2005, Mama to Genevieve born June 2006 and to Gabrielle born February 2009

02-20-2015, 04:51 AM	#9
2sunshines Moderator in Celebrations, Cloth Diapering & EC, Empty Arms, Prayer & Praise, and Swap n' Shop Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 27,024	Re: When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom? Well, technically a sahm is a homemaker, but a homemaker is not necessarily a sahm, right? Although I guess technically they are two different jobs. Most sahm's also are homemakers. But you technically could be a sahm and purposely NOT be a homemaker, right? Back in "the day" women generally tended to their homes, regardless of having children or not. Today, it's sort of rare (isn't it??? I think it is...) to find a woman who is a "homemaker" with no kids, or at least no kids yet. It's common for older women to continue to stay home after raising their kids, but I don't think (again, I may be wrong), it's very common for women to be homemakers pre-kids. __________________ married 25 years mom to two young adults (23 and 20) and two teens (17 and 15)

02-20-2015, 05:17 AM	#10
Saoirse Rose Garden Coming out into the Light! Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 5,307	Re: When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom? Personally, I've always preferred "Domestic Goddess." __________________ Pam - MOM to three amazing kids!!! "A victim lives in fear. A Survivor endures. A victim is weak and powerless, paying for what was not her doing. A Survivor has grown strong because she knows the price is not hers to pay, the sin is not hers to atone." - unknown Alis volat propriis SingleFabulousMamas unite!

02-20-2015, 05:41 AM	#11
MaySunflowers Deactivated Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: UK Posts: 7,781	Re: When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom? I don't actually "say" either. I just say I'm a mom, if people want to ask if I have a career then I will say no. I feel like homemaker or stay-at-home-mom is some term that people have come up with as though they need to make themselves feel as important as people with jobs. I'm just me, I don't need a title. I don't know if those are my MB letters talking or what.

02-20-2015, 05:48 AM	#12
CelticJourney Administrator Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 34,561	Re: When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom? I think the change was intended to show the priority of focus. Homemaker was associated with the 1950's perfect housekeeper and 'dinner on the table at 6' myth. 'Stay at home mom' came, it seems, to show a choice to focus on our kids, but trying not to antagonize our 'work outside the home mom' sisters. __________________ Elizabeth "Truth without love is divisive and hurtful & love without truth is anemic"--Pastor Estep Arise, cry out in the night...pour out your heart like water in the presence of the Lord; Lift up your hands to him for the lives of your children..; Lamentations 2:19

02-20-2015, 06:10 AM	#13
Chaos Coordinator Rose Garden They need freedom to just be fluffy mashed potatoes and feel their fluffy feelings. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Up to my earballs in little boys. Posts: 20,259	Re: When did homemaker change to stay-at-home-mom? I do think it had to do with the shift of focus. __________________ Joy Progressive Methodist Enfp mama to Sparrow, 10 Zion, 7.5 Baby Gus, 4.5 Preschool teacher. Musician. Timelord. Www.justicemercymayhem.wordpress.com "What you plant in the kingdom will surely grow, and what you grow with love will surely bloom, and the fruit of the spirit will come back to you."

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