New at Gentle Christian parenting, could use pointers

[jandjmommy]

Originally Posted by movinforward

My boys are 7 (almost 8) and 5 1/2. You have made some great progress and thank you for being open to sharing with us. It is helpful for me to read the responses.
jandjmommy, I love what you wrote, "You will never raise your fist to your mother or to any other woman as long as you live. "
My question is, how would you enforce this? If your child did this and just mocked you after you said the above? My almost 8 year old has had times of hitting me, pushing me - he is currently in counseling. I am in counseling. We are both trying to understand what is going on when he does this and how to handle it. I have had to literally lock myself in a room to get away from him when he gets into these fits. They are becoming much less frequent, but I am wondering how you can say the above and make sure that it does not happen again? Thanks.

I am sure others here can help you better than I can, but I'd think a counselor would have started right in on that issue. In my case only time will tell, but I think he took me seriously because I usually talk loud in general and yell when I'm excited or mad, so the calm statement of fact was heard, and obviously there is the implied threat of "or else", but honestly I don't know what the "or else" would be. My 4yo nephew thinks it's funny to hit everyone, scratch, pull hair, etc. He hit my mom on the leg one time and she pretty much told him the same thing-he never hit my mom again, but still hits everyone who essentially gives him permission to hit them.