Sleeping alone to cosleeping

VeganIma · 04-17-2015, 01:23 PM

Our son is 2.5 years old and has been sleeping in his own bed and room since he was about a year old or younger. I was never comfortable with this, but circumstances called for it. He is now at a stage where being alone in a dark room is scary, and he will come out of his bedroom a few times during the night.

For the past few nights, I've been sleeping with him in my bed because I am now a single mother. I love having him with me in bed, but I am also pregnant. Soon, I will be cosleeping with an infant. I guess my question is - should I risk having my toddler used to sleeping with me again, or is it best not to disrupt what has been his normal for two years? I am thinking he'll have to go back to sleeping on his own after baby comes.

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ValiantJoy07 · 04-17-2015, 01:42 PM

If the bed is large enough you should be able to sleep with both babies. If you've feel it might be too crowded or his sleep might be distributed, I would still find a way to have him in your room.

My kids weren't consistently ok with sleeping alone until they were 4-5yo.

mamacat · 04-17-2015, 02:05 PM

Agreeing!

If bed isnt big enough I would consider wedging a twin in there so there is plenty of room for all.Even when they are sleeping in diff room pretty much full time there may be times when he will need you and you all will get more sleep if he has a place right there next to you.Especially if you are single parenting . I always used a teeny flashlight if needed to be able to see better during night for diaper changes or whatever.You will also need to be sure that there is a buffer of some kind between toddler and baby if you have to go in bathroom during night or something. Something like this maybe? https://www.google.com/search?q=baby...ru%3B800%3B513

ValiantJoy07 · 04-17-2015, 03:02 PM

Also if you do decide to cosleep long-term, you might want to introduce some white noise to muffle grunty baby sounds or your getting up in the night with the babe.

A simple box fan on low is nice (and I recently discovered that there are filters you can pop on them to make an inexpensive air filter. Having a fan on in the room a baby is sleeping in has also been show to reduce risk of SIDS- or at least I recall reading that study when dd3 was born ).

We've also used this Graco white noise machine since dd1 was a baby.

mamacat · 04-17-2015, 03:12 PM

Those Fan Buddies are neat.My gdd (10)has used a specific box fan for white noise since her NB days.Emailed the info to my dd

04-17-2015, 01:23 PM	#1
VeganIma Rose Blossom Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Austin Posts: 133	Sleeping alone to cosleeping Our son is 2.5 years old and has been sleeping in his own bed and room since he was about a year old or younger. I was never comfortable with this, but circumstances called for it. He is now at a stage where being alone in a dark room is scary, and he will come out of his bedroom a few times during the night. For the past few nights, I've been sleeping with him in my bed because I am now a single mother. I love having him with me in bed, but I am also pregnant. Soon, I will be cosleeping with an infant. I guess my question is - should I risk having my toddler used to sleeping with me again, or is it best not to disrupt what has been his normal for two years? I am thinking he'll have to go back to sleeping on his own after baby comes. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk __________________ Single Mama to Little Bear ~ 7/18/12 and Baby Bean 7/22/15 ISFJ

04-17-2015, 01:42 PM	#2
ValiantJoy07 Rose Garden "Take Joy Home, And make a place in thy great heart for her...Joy is the grace we say to God." ~Jean Ingelow~ Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: The Forest Posts: 16,337	Re: Sleeping alone to cosleeping If the bed is large enough you should be able to sleep with both babies. If you've feel it might be too crowded or his sleep might be distributed, I would still find a way to have him in your room. My kids weren't consistently ok with sleeping alone until they were 4-5yo. __________________ Hannah Joy Intuitive People Loving Introvert Married since '05 to Ryan software and web applications developer. Homeschooling Mama to my 5 Joys... dd1 RJ (12/07), dd2 AJ (08/09), dd3 PJ (01/12), ds1 Ziggy (09/15), ds2 Sunny (05/18) Enjoying a Healing Diet to manage SPD and other health challenges. Sorry for the typos and sloppy grammar I don't have a good excuse anymore. Last edited by ValiantJoy07; 04-17-2015 at 02:56 PM.

04-17-2015, 02:05 PM	#3
mamacat Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 26,473	Re: Sleeping alone to cosleeping Agreeing! If bed isnt big enough I would consider wedging a twin in there so there is plenty of room for all.Even when they are sleeping in diff room pretty much full time there may be times when he will need you and you all will get more sleep if he has a place right there next to you.Especially if you are single parenting . I always used a teeny flashlight if needed to be able to see better during night for diaper changes or whatever.You will also need to be sure that there is a buffer of some kind between toddler and baby if you have to go in bathroom during night or something. Something like this maybe? https://www.google.com/search?q=baby...ru%3B800%3B513 __________________ ~Catherine~ Mama to 5: C W C J S And Grandma to 3: A ,K and baby C

04-17-2015, 03:02 PM	#4
ValiantJoy07 Rose Garden "Take Joy Home, And make a place in thy great heart for her...Joy is the grace we say to God." ~Jean Ingelow~ Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: The Forest Posts: 16,337	Re: Sleeping alone to cosleeping Also if you do decide to cosleep long-term, you might want to introduce some white noise to muffle grunty baby sounds or your getting up in the night with the babe. A simple box fan on low is nice (and I recently discovered that there are filters you can pop on them to make an inexpensive air filter. Having a fan on in the room a baby is sleeping in has also been show to reduce risk of SIDS- or at least I recall reading that study when dd3 was born ). We've also used this Graco white noise machine since dd1 was a baby. __________________ Hannah Joy Intuitive People Loving Introvert Married since '05 to Ryan software and web applications developer. Homeschooling Mama to my 5 Joys... dd1 RJ (12/07), dd2 AJ (08/09), dd3 PJ (01/12), ds1 Ziggy (09/15), ds2 Sunny (05/18) Enjoying a Healing Diet to manage SPD and other health challenges. Sorry for the typos and sloppy grammar I don't have a good excuse anymore.

04-17-2015, 03:12 PM	#5
mamacat Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 26,473	Re: Sleeping alone to cosleeping Those Fan Buddies are neat.My gdd (10)has used a specific box fan for white noise since her NB days.Emailed the info to my dd __________________ ~Catherine~ Mama to 5: C W C J S And Grandma to 3: A ,K and baby C

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