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06-18-2011, 08:08 AM | #61 |
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Re: Spanking "works"
But if he wants to be literal about it, he should be hitting them with baseball bats. There is no definition of "spanking" in the Bible that speaks to a flat hand applied to a rear end. If he wants to take the rod verses for what they are worth, he'd use a bat, that's what he'd have to be doing to be "Biblical" about it.
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06-18-2011, 08:19 AM | #62 |
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Re: Spanking "works"
A little O/T but every time I see this thread I emphasize the word works and give it the meaning found in this verse:
For it is by Grace you have been saved through faith, and this not of yourselves. It is the gift of God -- not by works so that no one may boast. Ephesians 2:8-9 And really, that's quite telling for me, b/c spanking seems to emphasizes works over the gift of God's grace.
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06-18-2011, 08:27 AM | #63 | |
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Re: Spanking "works"
Literally speaking... spanking is hitting. You can NOT spank without hitting. I've asked people how they're managing to spank their child(ren) without hitting them and usually that gets a lightbulb to go on.
If someone is spanking without hitting... well... I'd say that they aren't actually spanking I'm quoting myself from here: Quote:
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06-18-2011, 08:37 AM | #64 | |
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Does he read at all? Would he be willing to read (or listen on book tape) to things about large families and age appropriate behavior?
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06-18-2011, 08:56 AM | #65 | |
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06-18-2011, 09:04 AM | #66 | |
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There will *not* be violence in my home, I won't have it. My husband was not raised well. Neither was I, but while his was just permissive parenting, mine was abusive. One sure way to have me ready to fight is to threaten my kid with pain. The day DH scared DS, I think he figured that out. He tried to say I was "interfering" in his parenting and I shot back a bit of "THAT was not parenting, THAT was bullying and just plain laziness." And I proceeded to get up on the couch so I could be bigger than him and look mean while I told him to clean up. Not the most cool headed plan but holy cow, the light that dawned in his eyes. Seeing him apologize to our little boy mollified the beast.
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Excellent point. One of my favorite, and funny, come backs is "Violence begets violence. If you don't believe me, I dare you to try to hit one of kids." ---------- Post added at 11:22 AM ---------- Previous post was at 11:19 AM ---------- Quote:
The idea he would strike and hit one of your children because they were following him, trying to get his attention makes me sick to my stomach. Truthfully, there are red flags screaming in my head over this. |
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06-18-2011, 10:44 AM | #68 | |
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and i should add- he's frusterates himself, because he *threatens* the spanks all day. he rarely does it. but still- its a drag
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06-18-2011, 11:37 AM | #69 | |
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And I love bunny trails I'm all for them. No need to apologize for them
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06-18-2011, 12:25 PM | #70 | |
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06-18-2011, 04:42 PM | #71 | |
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06-18-2011, 05:33 PM | #72 |
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Re: Spanking "works"
If your husband keeps making the kids feel rejected, he's going to find himself rejected by them when they are grown up.
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06-18-2011, 05:59 PM | #73 |
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Re: Spanking "works"
This is very true. Talk to my dad who still thinks that kids adjust for the adult. He has a strained relationship with all four of us.
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06-18-2011, 06:00 PM | #74 |
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I am not meaning to be mean but this reminds me of something a friend of mine once said, "I sure hope she likes the state run nursing home her kids are going to put her in one day." There is alot of truth in that. Parents should not be surprised when one day their adult children treat them exactly how they were taught to do.
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