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03-30-2011, 02:16 PM | #31 |
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Not to mention the fact that DH and I KNOW where our salvation stands.... we likely will not know at what exact point our children will have a saving faith (when/if they reach that age of accountability before God without choosing to follow him) So my goodness please DH let me go to my GOD and save our kids in order for THEM to have the choice to follow God.
This has bothered me all day.... |
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03-30-2011, 02:49 PM | #32 | |
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(Syringe feed, drop by drop by drop, while encouraging me to pump and helping me straighten out wires and holding me while I wailed in despair over our born-too-early son not nursing..and then get up and go to work the next day. He was horrified when someone suggested he sleep in another room - "I helped bring this child here, and she's going to work all day caring for him. What kind of selfish jerk would I have to be to make her do that all by herself!?!") I guess I don't see why it has to be the marital relationship OR the children, you know? I know nobody here is arguing for that, but this line of thinking always makes me a little ragey I mean, yes, God willing my husband and I will be living a long life together even after our son is grown and has his own place. But I'd have zero respect for him and no desire to be in relationship with him if he insisted on placing him and his needs on a pedestal above our son's very real needs The Boy is almost 7.5, and certainly doesn't need the time consuming care he did as a newborn. He's old enough to be told "go grab a snack, Mom and Dad will be out in a little bit. We're, um, resting!" on the occasional Saturday morning But he's secure enough to take us at our word and know we'll be there for him because we cared for and met every one of his needs when he was an infant. We still haven't been out on a 'date night' without him. I asked Dh the other day if it bothered him, and he went and then just laughed. I mean, we were married for over 6 years before we had The Boy. We've got, what - another 8.5 years before he's a legal adult? Time with him is precious, and fleeting, and we want to be with him as a family unit Plus, it's kind of sexy to flirt with my husband in ways that The Boy is too young to pick up on Our marriage is happy, and vibrant, and strong - and so is our relationship with our son |
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03-30-2011, 09:09 PM | #33 |
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We were married nearly 10 years before Isaiah came into our lives. We weren't huge on date nights before him. Why are they so necessary now? We've been on one or two, but I certainly don't think they're any more special than taking the boy along with us. More quiet, perhaps.
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03-31-2011, 05:29 AM | #34 | |
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03-31-2011, 05:31 AM | #35 |
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no no - I wasn't saying you were arguing for that - more using it as a springboard to discuss more behind that philosophy I know you didn't mean that/believe that - or you wouldn't be here at GCM
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03-31-2011, 06:32 AM | #36 |
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Good. I was a little worried that maybe I was not as clear as I thought.
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03-31-2011, 06:47 AM | #38 | |
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03-31-2011, 01:42 PM | #39 |
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DH was just listening to someone talk about this last night!!! Some guy named Paul Washer. I told him then I'd have a HUGE problem if he saved me and not DS.
He's listening to a lot of random things right now, though- he is very AP, so no knocking my DH please
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03-31-2011, 03:30 PM | #40 |
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I think it is great that he is listening to other views, that keeps him from being in an echo chamber and makes him think about what he believes. As long as he is not bringing the garbage into your lives, keep learning from odd sources.
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04-04-2011, 09:40 PM | #41 |
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I think in order to really know what was meant we would not just have to look at the words but also the context in which the words were meant. I have read where he spoke about going on a date night once a week and it was a suggestion, take it or leave it just like in ANY parenting book we are not going to agree 100 percent on EVERYTHING kwim? I never have done exactly what he suggested but I also do not think going on a date is wrong. I believe that being a wife and mother is the highest calling. If we do not nurture our marriages they will suffer which will have a chain affect. Now about spouses being more important then kids, again what was the context....was he referring to the marriage triangle with God first, our spouse second, and kids next? If so this is scripturally based. It does not mean that you lay a starving baby to the side because hubby wants his feet rubbed. We are called to submit to our husbands though.
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My mothering is separate, and IMHO, more important. ....don't know how that fits on the myth busting blog, but there it is.
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04-04-2011, 11:18 PM | #43 |
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I'm wondering which verse this is based on.
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04-05-2011, 04:31 AM | #44 |
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Re: Has Dobson ever said...
Just a slightly different angle from across the pond (we don't get any Dobson here...).
The whole thing about making sure your marriage is strong is something that is taught here a lot too - both in secular and in Christian circles. However, it doesn't have the icky by products that you have been talking about so far in this thread. The underlying assumption is simply that a strong marriage facilitates strong parenting and therefore healthy kids. As for 'presenting a united front' - that might have been twisted as well. I remember well going to my mum to 'try again' when I got a 'no' about something from my dad and vice versa. If they hadn't been parenting from the same place (united front), imagine how confusing it would have been for me. Mum says 'no' but dad might always say 'yes'. That doesn't just undermine the other person, it confuses the child and creates real boundary issues. However, I agree that the expression 'united front' sounds very adversarial |
04-05-2011, 04:57 AM | #45 | |
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