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I think gently pointing out other things that work can start to open a Pearl follower's mind. but trying to tell them they are wrong or being dangerous can shut off further communication. Prayer is the best, however.
Sometimes someone who is following Pearl or another program just doesn't know about other alternatives. One of the reasons I think spanking is lazy parenting is b/c it is an easy formula to follow. Kid does wrong, kid gets spanked. Whereas PP/GD etc is kid does wrong, mom figures out solutions and implements them. Like with the scissors, the easiest solution is for mom to keep them out of reach and give child opportunities to explore. But that requires more work than spanking, you know?
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02-22-2010, 04:12 PM
Re: What does Pearl actually teach?
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