The problem with book disclaimers... - Page 2

LadybugSam · 03-15-2010, 01:29 PM

I had a moment right after my son was diagnosed with autism where it really hit me how thankful i was that we parented the way we did when he was small. Verbal communication is so hard for him, and if we had ignored his cries when he was so young he would have shut down even more

Heather Micaela · 03-15-2010, 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by ValiantJoy07

I think what I meant was that if ezzo and pearl and dobson ARE teaching the truth then you can use it to teach any one at any time...If it's TRUTH it applies to all people and all parts of life (as GBD does).

Before I even realized my kids had SN, this is one of the things that convinced me I did NOT have to follow Dosbson's plan. Why did only the SN or foster kids get off scott free ?

yellowheart · 03-15-2010, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by tigerlily

My question is do these books really have such a disclaimer in them?

I've read Babywise and don't remember any such thing.

I haven't picked up any of the others, though.

It seems most of these authors are arrogant enough to believe that they are *right*, why would they make a disclaimer?

I've read several Ezzo publications and the only one I remember mentioning special needs is their most recent book "The Toddlerhood Transition" and even then it was only in refernce to autistic children. I'm not home right now so I can't even tell you what it says in the book. I'll look it up later. But, I'm most certain that is the first reference I've seen in Ezzo materials.

ValiantJoy07 · 03-15-2010, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by tigerlily

My question is do these books really have such a disclaimer in them?

I've read Babywise and don't remember any such thing.

I haven't picked up any of the others, though.

It seems most of these authors are arrogant enough to believe that they are *right*, why would they make a disclaimer?

iircc dobson makes such disclaimers in Strong Willed Child - he differentiates between kids with special needs and "strong willed"

and I believe in Dare to Discpline as well ...dont' know it's been a few years since I've read them nad could be remembering wrong.

Tasmanian Saint · 03-15-2010, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by BlessedBlue

So I guess I want to discuss how to raise awareness of this particular flaw in most parenting advice. How can we educate new parents? Is there anything that can be done?

I suppose we could find the Dobson quote and people could put it up on Twitter/FB etc with a question, like, "If it's possible to parent SN kids effectively without being punitive, why not everyone?"

Something snappier to put on placards if anyone manages to set up an anti-protest would be good, too... any ideas?

Waterlogged · 03-15-2010, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by MamaBee

but the fact is there that we started it. She's bipolar, and a rather anxious child.

Hugs - not to go off topic, but I just wanted to encourage you not to blame yourself that your daughter is bipolar...Grace is for mamas too.

NewCovenantMama · 03-19-2010, 03:51 AM

The idea that if spanking were really God's parenting prescription it would be suitable for all children including those with special needs, and also it wouldn't be possible to parent foster children effectively without it, was what really made me question it.

Emma

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