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Old 07-14-2005, 10:49 AM   #46
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what a wonderful space! Sounds beautiful

1) any time a child responds well to a bear hug I incorporate it

2) I think what you're doing with Indy and taking him to the Grouchy place (love that name ) is working for him and just fine

3) maybe have something for his sister to focus her on when she *needs* to be there with Indy and you
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Old 08-26-2005, 02:04 PM   #47
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I love the idea of the comfort corner and am going to create one. One question I have is, is the space designated as almost "sacred" space for the child only? Or, can parents use it too to model the behavior? For example, if I feel myself getting grouchy or about to lose my temper and I say, "Uh oh, Mama needs a break" and go to the comfort corner myself? Or should parents have a distinct space not related to the child's comfort corner?
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Old 08-26-2005, 02:05 PM   #48
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Using it as a parent is a great way to model it's use
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Old 08-26-2005, 02:07 PM   #49
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Thanks for the help- I'm excited about using the comfort corner!
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Old 08-27-2005, 08:17 PM   #50
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Grandma here,
I have loved reading about the comfort corner and It is so encouraging to see you young moms working on your attitudes and behaviours, changing to show more of the fruits of the spirit at home. It's something that christian women want but don't know what it looks like in actions.
I have seen the comfort corner in action and it is amazing how well it works when the mood is kind and firm.
I never called it the comfort corner but when the 30 year olds were young and things got intense I usually had the children lay on the big pillows in the living room or sometimes I just put on the music and they went to lay down and listen, usually I put on the Bullfrogs and Butterflies record that the children loved [okay maybe I loved it too ] and the music was peaceful and fun and taught the fruits of the spirit. It was amazing how we all calmed down. i wish I had used it more often its a very nice memory in my memory bank.
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Old 08-27-2005, 08:42 PM   #51
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its a very nice memory in my memory bank
In my daughter bank too

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Old 08-30-2005, 11:14 PM   #52
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Karmen, thank you for sharing,
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Old 09-02-2005, 08:16 PM   #53
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ooo I really like that Karmen. Just how you said it all brought up a whole bunch of memories for me too that I hadn't recognised. I LOVED Bullfrogs and butterflies & Music machine as a kid and I play the records once and awhile around here too. It's true. The children really do slow down, stop and listen.

I haven't got to making a comfort corner yet but keep the tools and ideas coming gals....this is an awesome idea. And I will definetely be using/modeling it for them as well.
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Old 10-05-2005, 11:39 PM   #54
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I have really loved this thread!! My question is what is the Five Step thing and where did you get it? Is it from a book? I am going to create our special comfort corner tomorrow when I get up. Love it!
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Old 10-06-2005, 11:55 AM   #55
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the five steps is another sticky here and it was develped by my mentor and found in my book
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Old 10-14-2005, 04:14 AM   #56
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My oldest DD's bedroom is off the Living Room. Would this be an appropriate Comfort Corner? She enjoys her room and she can close the door to get away from her little sis. I have always encouraged her to go to her room to take a break, and have gotten a lot of flack from it because I "allow" her to play.
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The boys and I had talked about a "comfort corner" and they liked the idea... then we found a little pop-up tent that we decided was perfect! It's really only big enough for one (though big enough for me when I need it!) And we have it tucked next to the couch in the living room. On the floor we put a big soft quilt. So far, we've all used it (well, not DH, but both of the dogs and the baby!) and it really does seem to help. The problem: when both boys could really use it because they're upset/frustrated with each other, they don't fit, so they fight over who gets it! (Also, even if it was bigger, they wouldn't do well to go together in that state!) Ideas?
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Well, you might look for another pop-up. The nice thing about them is they fold away for storage, so you could keep a spare under the couch? We've got a pop-tent, too. May have to think about that. I'll talk to my dh tonight about setting up a "grouchy place." I have a sneaking hunch that I'll spend more time in it than the kids...
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Oh, I really like the pop-up tent idea! Thanks
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Old 12-16-2005, 08:24 PM   #60
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I am really new to all of this but am so excited to find possitive help nurturing my dc. I have a question.
Can the CC be am area that you use for other things or does it need to be used just as a CC. For example I have a rocking love seat that we use for our morning pray, read and talk about the day time. Can I use this same spot for our CC?
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