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09-20-2006, 10:57 PM	#1
glassangel Guest Posts: n/a	*vent why can't women be the experts???** This is really probably not worth posting about ... but A year or so ago friends of ours that were pregnant were at our place and the Dh picks up Biblical Parenting and says something along the lines of 'I couldn't read that book with that author" (nevertheless they got into BW - despite a lot of conversations with her and lending of books) Two things - Crystal is a woman & a pastor Not on the topic of women pastors...but women as experts on child rearing??? WHY AREN'T women the experts on everything children???? Instead let's just discount (or not even consider) something a woman says because they are emotional creatures and are led by their fleeting emotions... To me the fact that most Christian parenting books are written by men just makes me roll my eyes...and ...I dunno why but women follow the teaching of men about parenting (about breastfeeding ) because they are male and 'better' or more in authority - or something I know when I had DS I learnt something that I never knew and that was how my own baby's cries made me respond in a way I'd never known - I have had a lot to do with other babies and their crying didn't 'bother' me - but I learnt as soon as I had DS that there is a God-given difference in response to your own baby's cry. Does my DH understand this? Not unless I talk to him about it and even then he doesn't experience the same thing...yes they do have their own attachments and the father child relationship is important - but a MAN telling women about the MOTHER child relationship - just doesn't make sense.... Okay I am over it now...

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