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Old 03-06-2010, 05:27 PM   #1
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Lightbulb Has Anyone Read this Blog? Razing Ruth...

I'm captivated, and can't stop reading it. I want to write to her and invite her to browse through GCM, but I want to read all the way to the beginning (I'm reading it backwards). In a nutshell, it's the daughter of someone who is sort of high up in the Gothard "ministry," and who has left the whole QF/ ATI movement, and is speaking out about her experiences. It's pretty powerful, and she's remarkably insightful. Check this out:

http://razingruth.blogspot.com
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Default Re: Has Anyone Read this Blog? Razing Ruth...

I've read it and I agree with all your conclusions--she's a great writer and it's insane what she's recovered from. I knew someone in ATI and it was horrible.

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Default Re: Has Anyone Read this Blog? Razing Ruth...

Really interesting. Thanks for posting the link. I can't imagine trying to recover from that.
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over some of this stuff....
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Default Re: Has Anyone Read this Blog? Razing Ruth...

Fascinating. I've only read the first page of posts, but wow.
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I had wondered about Gothard...a childless, never married man. How did he get to be such an expert?
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Wow, I've been reading for the last 30 min. How old is she exactly? Early twenties? She seems so mature & well spoken.
I became a follower.
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Wow, I've been reading for the last 30 min. How old is she exactly? Early twenties? She seems so mature & well spoken.
I became a follower.
She mentions in one of the first blogs that she was born in 1984. Her mom was a high school teacher before she was married and homeschooled her kids.
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Half of it is blocked by my filter and I forget the code. BUT what I have read is amazing. Praying for her!
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what is ATI?
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Man, I just read the whole thing. What a crazy story...Gothardism just boggles my mind. I mean, I grew up with some very conservative, fundamentalist people, but Gothardism takes it to a whole new level.

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Wow. Incredible stuff. I have tons of work to do this afternoon, but all I want to do is read this from the beginning.

Thank you so much for sharing this link!
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Can someone explain what ATI is?
Google Bill Gothard and ATI (Advanced Training Institute Internationa)

I really don't much about it except that it's connected to Quiverfull. ???

I was just reading her very first post and how the idea of JOY (Jesus first Others second You third) is so tainted for her that she hates the word joy now. This is so, so, so sad.

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what is TWOP that she refers to?
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