GD way to say "no throwing?"

[esperanza]

Ds (20 months) is into throwing things when he is mad/frustrated. I have a good handle on a lot of GD phrases to deal with inappropriate behavior, but I can't always figure out a good phrase for no throwing.
Gentle hands works sometimes, but not always.
Throwing is for outside doesn't always really apply.
What do other people use?

[Katigre]

Stop!

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[milkmommy]

Little ones don't hear things in the negative well. So no throwing gets processed as Throw..
Rather start with the should or cans.
Toys are for playing not throwing
Food is for eating not flinging
cats are for petting not tossing

redirecting or engage and retreat are valuable at this age.

ETA I found words like Freeze! Halt! Danger! more effective than stop if I needed to try and instantly prevent the said behavior.
like preventing a burn from touching hot coffee or Freeze for running towards traffic HALT/Freeze to keep a valuable from harm. We kept them for when real danger or something of "greater" value could be harmed so it didn't loose its power.


Deanna

[esperanza]

Good idea. We haven't used stop for throwing much, but we do use it for other things like running into the street! He mostly think it's funny when I say stop, of course.

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Originally Posted by milkmommy

Little ones don't hear things in the negative well. So no throwing gets processed as Throw..
Rather start with the should or cans.
Toys are for playing not throwing
Food is for eating not flinging
cats are for petting not tossing

redirecting or engage and retreat are valuable at this age.


Deanna

Exactly! I haven't said "no throwing" because I know he will hear throw, so I'm trying to figure out what else to say. We do a lot of "x is for y" so I could do that with whatever he's throwing. It can be most anything- whatever he has in his hand when he's mad at me.

It's so cute but so sad when he's crying because he's upset and saying "uh oh" through his tears because he sees that whatever he just threw is now on the floor (and sometimes now broken). So sweet.

[ArmsOfLove]

definitely focus on what TO do.

Also, it's more helpful to be proactive at this age. If there are things that are typically thrown then replace them with soft things that aren't going to hurt or break anyone/anything.

And, see if there is any pattern you can possibly address. Is there a reason he's throwing? There may not be. But if there is you can work on giving him words/signs, etc.

[esperanza]

He pretty much just throws when he's mad (i.e. can't have or do something he wants to do). It's not a huge deal, and I can definitely stop him mid-throw sometimes.

When he's scratching us for example, we tell him "gentle hands" and practice what that means. When he's mad, I reflect his feelings. I just was thinking that it would be nice to have a phrase to use when he throws to tell him what to do, like "throwing is for outside" (except that doesn't really work).

[ArmsOfLove]

I think this is one of the issues that leads to everyone saying, "Use your words!"

I often opted for "Put it down and come get a hug." Anything that encourages communicating is

[rjy9343]

My nephew went through that and it was far easier to give him balls for throwing. His parents bought a lot of them and when he wanted to throw, they took the wrong thing and said only throw balls. I am going to suggest you only give him soft ones, my brother heard da-da and looked at my nephew just in time to get nailed with a heavy plastic ball. It left a big bruise, but my nephew did what he was taught, they decided to teach him the difference between house balls and outside balls after that.

[Aerynne]

We have some soft balls for indoor throwing. So handing him a ball while saying "balls are for throwing, toy cars are for driving" (if he threw a car) would probably work well.