Another reason not to cio

ShowersofBlessings · 05-17-2005, 05:12 PM

It doesn't "work"!

My friend is doing this with her 9 month old.

Yesterday was the fourth night and he cried till 2am! The night before he fell asleep after *only* an hour of crying, but then woke up every hour or so whimpering....

flowermama · 05-17-2005, 05:26 PM

cklewis · 05-17-2005, 05:27 PM

C

ArmsOfLove · 05-17-2005, 05:36 PM

05-17-2005, 05:39 PM

TulipMama · 05-17-2005, 05:40 PM

*sigh*

And even when parents think it is "working"--very often it isn't.

I only found out later when I thought one of my boys was "sleeping through the night" that he was really waking and crying--and I didn't hear him. I think I had trained myself to not "hear" it anymore. (I found out from my sister who did hear. . .)

Katiebug · 05-17-2005, 08:08 PM

That's really sad.

Another thing is, people will tell you it's a one time shot, that within 3 days it'll be over with and they'll be sleeping through the night forever, but thats simply not true. You'll have to do it again after a holiday where their routine has been disrupted, after an illness, a bad bout of teething, etc, etc.

05-17-2005, 08:17 PM

TulipMama · 05-18-2005, 06:36 AM

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Another thing is, people will tell you it's a one time shot, that within 3 days it'll be over with and they'll be sleeping through the night forever, but thats simply not true. You'll have to do it again after a holiday where their routine has been disrupted, after an illness, a bad bout of teething, etc, etc.

This is so true. In BW support groups, there are constant questions about "getting back on schedule" and such. Mothers who like CIO may only remember an intial "training" period with minimal crying, but in the aggregate there is a LOT of crying at naps, disrupted schedules, etc.

happy2bmama · 05-18-2005, 07:54 AM

05-18-2005, 08:25 AM

That is just soooooooo sad!!! My SIL does that and lets her baby cries for hours and horus!!

MarynMunchkins · 05-18-2005, 08:28 AM

It doesn't work. Doug cried for every nap and bedtime (usually less than 2-3 minutes) until he was 14 months old.

Soliloquy · 05-18-2005, 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by TulipMama

*sigh*

And even when parents think it is "working"--very often it isn't.

I only found out later when I thought one of my boys was "sleeping through the night" that he was really waking and crying--and I didn't hear him. I think I had trained myself to not "hear" it anymore. (I found out from my sister who did hear. . .)

I've read that most parents who do CIO find out that there kids are still waking and crying whenever they have house guests or are visiting relatives. They'll wake up the next morning and someone will say, "Sally sure cried a lot last night. What was wrong?" and the parents will realize that they've been the ones who've been trained--not to hear their child's cries.

OneSillyMommy · 05-18-2005, 12:17 PM

zak · 05-18-2005, 12:32 PM

I was reading on another board yesterday and a Mom said she let her child CIO for SIX HOURS!! How could you as a person with EARS tolorate that for hours on end and not want to put a stop to it?? Not the fact that it's your child crying - but that NOISE alone would make me want to stop it...

When Jack gets upset while eating/diapering/etc... I want to pull my hair out when he cries hard for 20 seconds.

Breaks my heart - the 'advice' on that other site was... 'it happens'... 'unfortuantely you can't pick her up or she'll have to be retrained'...

05-17-2005, 05:12 PM	#1
ShowersofBlessings Rose Bouquet Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 598	Another reason not to cio It doesn't "work"! My friend is doing this with her 9 month old. Yesterday was the fourth night and he cried till 2am! The night before he fell asleep after only an hour of crying, but then woke up every hour or so whimpering.... __________________ Rebekah wife to my highschool sweetheart 1996 mama to Timothy 2003 God's blessing of Mercy Alana 2005 God's blessing of Grace Matthew 2008 God's blessing of Joy David 2010 God's blessing of Love Elysha 2012 God's blessing of Faith Caleb 2014 God's blessing of Peace Olivia 2016God's blessing of Kindness And Benjamin 2020 God's blessing of Patience

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flowermama Owner/Founder of GCM Administrator Run with endurance the race that is set before you. . . Heb. 12:1 Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 30,571	Re: Another reason not to cio __________________ ~ Jeri Vegan mom to my vegan kiddos DD1 (24), DS1 (21), DD2 (18), and DS2 (15) And wife to my gentle DH for 26 years and counting Instagram: gentleveganrunner gentlechristianmothers

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ArmsOfLove Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 79,607	Re: Another reason not to cio __________________ Crystal "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." Maya Angelou

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TulipMama Deactivated Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 5,796	Re: Another reason not to cio sigh And even when parents think it is "working"--very often it isn't. I only found out later when I thought one of my boys was "sleeping through the night" that he was really waking and crying--and I didn't hear him. I think I had trained myself to not "hear" it anymore. (I found out from my sister who did hear. . .)

05-17-2005, 08:08 PM	#7
Katiebug Rose Trellis Join Date: May 2005 Location: British Columbia Posts: 2,510	Re: Another reason not to cio That's really sad. Another thing is, people will tell you it's a one time shot, that within 3 days it'll be over with and they'll be sleeping through the night forever, but thats simply not true. You'll have to do it again after a holiday where their routine has been disrupted, after an illness, a bad bout of teething, etc, etc. __________________ Katie Happily Married to T Mom to: J June 2003 R June 2005 A July 2010

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purplerose Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Another reason not to cio That is just soooooooo sad!!! My SIL does that and lets her baby cries for hours and horus!!

05-18-2005, 08:28 AM	#12
MarynMunchkins Deactivated Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 38,127	Re: Another reason not to cio It doesn't work. Doug cried for every nap and bedtime (usually less than 2-3 minutes) until he was 14 months old.

05-18-2005, 12:17 PM	#14
OneSillyMommy Climbing Rose Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 1,329	Re: Another reason not to cio __________________ ~Alicia~ Mom of 4 ds 93' , dd 95', ds 00', & dd 02' Wife to one more, 92' Eve was not taken out of Adam’s head to top him, neither out of his feet to be trampled on by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected by him, and near his heart to be loved by him.”–Matthew Henry

05-18-2005, 12:32 PM	#15
zak Administrator Friend of the Fellowship Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: The South Posts: 33,212	Re: Another reason not to cio I was reading on another board yesterday and a Mom said she let her child CIO for SIX HOURS!! How could you as a person with EARS tolorate that for hours on end and not want to put a stop to it?? Not the fact that it's your child crying - but that NOISE alone would make me want to stop it... When Jack gets upset while eating/diapering/etc... I want to pull my hair out when he cries hard for 20 seconds. Breaks my heart - the 'advice' on that other site was... 'it happens'... 'unfortuantely you can't pick her up or she'll have to be retrained'... __________________ -zak Wife to MrZak Mama to the ZakKids - 2005, 2007, 2010, 2012 and 2017 Dedicated GCMer since 2003 Administrator and Moderating Cradled, Babes, Breastfeeding, Beautiful Mothers and Circumcision

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