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Old 02-18-2010, 04:15 PM   #31
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Default Re: Another adopted child...parents followed Pearl methods

We should try to stop him on earth anyway. What kind of person walks up to an 11 month old and HITS him with a switch? Then he says, "I was trying to make friends with him." Dude could have just poured out the coins on the floor and played with the kid instead of hitting him. WHY do people follow that guy's advice? I'd never listen to a word he says.
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Old 02-20-2010, 05:18 PM   #32
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Those poor little girls.
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Default Re: Another adopted child...parents followed Pearl methods

Here's a blog post from someone who knew the parents and attended Lydia's funeral. I like the tone she takes and I thought you all might find it helpful in a way to read her perspective. She's just as bewildered as any of us--more so, I'm sure. But I appreciate her tone so much. She also posted in the comments thread on my blog post about it.

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Default Re: Another adopted child...parents followed Pearl methods

so sad. I went through a Pearl phase when I was given the book by a friend. "..but for the grace of God go I. " I feel sick reading this.

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Linda, I'm so glad the Holy Spirit gave you the discernment to see the wrong in that.
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