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10-19-2010, 11:00 AM | #16 | |||||
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Re: reaching our children's hearts
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It sounds like a recipe for "how to teach your child to put on a phony smile & a fake "happy" act in self-defense". Quote:
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10-19-2010, 11:20 AM | #17 |
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Re: reaching our children's hearts
thankyou katie for that blog post
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10-19-2010, 12:45 PM | #18 | |||
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10-19-2010, 03:54 PM | #19 |
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Re: reaching our children's hearts
discipline means to teach; "train them up" is better understood with the imagery of "steep them in" so yes we teach; we steep them in the way they should go--make it their entire context They know nothing else because it's all they experience.
Leave no option to misbehave--prepare, stop and instruct, prevent, set up for success And Tripp is offensive on many levels--hitting a 9mo for wiggling in a high chair has nothing to do with biblical discipline, with understanding the development and abilities of a 9mo, or with parenting at all
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10-19-2010, 05:53 PM | #20 |
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Re: reaching our children's hearts
I read this thread earlier today, including katiekind's blog post, and I've been mulling it over all day. Thank you, ladies for explaining this. It's like it was in my head before, but now I feel like I could actually explain what I think about sin w/ regards to toddlers (I did to DH at dinner ).
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Its frustrating. (As Im sure you all know!) ---------- Post added at 09:34 PM ---------- Previous post was at 08:47 PM ---------- Quote:
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10-19-2010, 07:49 PM | #22 |
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Re: reaching our children's hearts
It is hard to imagine them learning not to do certain things when you're saying the same things over and over for the first year or two or three. When my oldest was 18 months, I started swatting her hands for things like touching the tv. She didn't stop. When I learned about GBD, I stopped doing that and now she is 4 and doesn't mess with the tv. My 2 year old's most recent game is to stand right in front of the tv so her sister can't see it. I tell her to move and then I say "do you want to do it yourself or do you need mama to help?" Then I get up to help. I used to have to physically remove her a few times. Now I usually just tell her to move and she moves. Sometimes I have to make a token effort to look like I'm getting of my chair and she moves. She's not afraid of me, because unlike her sister, she has never been hit. But she still moves. I'm confident that in a few months, this will pass. And then we'll be on to something else!
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10-20-2010, 08:13 AM | #23 |
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Re: reaching our children's hearts
i dont really enjoy debating theology on here ..but i'll speak for those of us who do believe in original sin as it applies to children..
no matter what the reason is..even if it IS sin..I see the Lord teaching and guiding us. never beating us into cold conformity.
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10-20-2010, 08:19 AM | #24 | |
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10-21-2010, 05:56 AM | #27 | |
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It's me, dh, Dressy Bessy (Sept 08) and Dancing Daisy (May 10) Lead the children to see in every pleasant and beautiful thing an expression of God's love for them. Recommend your religion to them by its pleasantness. Let the law of kindness be in your lips. ~Ellen G. White |
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