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Old 02-23-2010, 04:01 PM   #1
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Default Where are the Pearl/NGJ supporters in this?

In my monitoring of the dozen or so blogs following the Schatz case, I have read only a tiny number of comments in support of the Pearls. Do you think Pearl supporters are just lying low and afraid to say anything? Do you think they know what's going on? Is it possible that some have begun to reexamine their use of the Pearl's methods?
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Default Re: Where are the Pearl/NGJ supporters in this?

I was wondering how they felt about this issue.
I do have many concerns over some of their teachings, not only for children, but for wives as well. I believe a woman should LEAVE an abusive man, for example.
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Default Re: Where are the Pearl/NGJ supporters in this?

One thing about the people in my world who are NJG supporters is that they are nothing if not prayerful about their parenting...they're just deceived. They're smart people, for the most part, who are probably just laying low and saying, "Well, the materials were never meant to be used like *that* It's all just blown out of proportion with those crazy people (the murderers.)" In another week or two, we'll start hearing from them, and see all of the rationalizations and hear all of the reasons that TTUAC doesn't *actually* say to do that to children. Most people read those materials with a 'filter' of sanity, and don't even see the worst of it. That is true of the most insidious of parenting materials.
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Default Re: Where are the Pearl/NGJ supporters in this?

I was at Lowes today and decided to walk down the plumbing aisle....... I saw the 1/2 in plumbing supply line. Seriously please someone needs to prosecute the authors of that insane book. *they are insane*
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One thing about the people in my world who are NJG supporters is that they are nothing if not prayerful about their parenting...they're just deceived. They're smart people, for the most part, who are probably just laying low and saying, "Well, the materials were never meant to be used like *that* It's all just blown out of proportion with those crazy people (the murderers.)" In another week or two, we'll start hearing from them, and see all of the rationalizations and hear all of the reasons that TTUAC doesn't *actually* say to do that to children. Most people read those materials with a 'filter' of sanity, and don't even see the worst of it. That is true of the most insidious of parenting materials.
I think you are spot on with this. I wonder how (IF?) a response ...a chance to dialouge could be had once this occurs?
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One thing about the people in my world who are NJG supporters is that they are nothing if not prayerful about their parenting...they're just deceived. They're smart people, for the most part, who are probably just laying low and saying, "Well, the materials were never meant to be used like *that* It's all just blown out of proportion with those crazy people (the murderers.)" In another week or two, we'll start hearing from them, and see all of the rationalizations and hear all of the reasons that TTUAC doesn't *actually* say to do that to children. Most people read those materials with a 'filter' of sanity, and don't even see the worst of it. That is true of the most insidious of parenting materials.
That sounds very plausible. When the spotlight is gone they'll emerge. Well, I'm not going anywhere. I don't think this is just going to go away.
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Yes I have a couple Pearl fans among my FB friends I was surprised when I posted about it and they didn't come out with their usual lines about how people who speak out against the Pearls /Ezzo/ etc all are just trying to "divide the body of Christ" and should be more "submissive to leadership"
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If you google the name of their daughter, Rebekah, you can probably find her response.
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You know what I was just thinking? If they wrote all their stuff about animals instead of children they would have to have 24-7 security to protect them from P.E.T.A. But since their write it about children, clothed in religious mumbo jumbo, they somehow get a pass.
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You know what I was just thinking? If they wrote all their stuff about animals instead of children they would have to have 24-7 security to protect them from P.E.T.A. But since their write it about children, clothed in religious mumbo jumbo, they somehow get a pass.
ITA.

I found Rebekah Pearl Anast's defense from 2006, but nothing so far from this time.

Her recollection of a happy childhood is just a huge confirmation to me that the Pearls actually did not practice what they preached. Not to quote myself, but I wrote this about Dr. Dobson a while ago.

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I didn't look at the date.
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Well, the only response I've read was on an non-parenting board. That obviously these people weren't following Pearl's methods. That the Pearls are basically the best thing since sliced bread and people should just stop picking on this old country pastor and his tiny wife. Blah, blah, blah...
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They are on FB. I think I'm going to spin about it.
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