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05-01-2015, 12:51 AM | #1 |
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Grandparents changing their names
Anyone else had this happen?
Three of our grandparents have randomly announced that they will no longer be known as Grandma Jean (or insert other grandparent name here) and would rather go by some other callsign, like Mammaw or whatever. My children are halfway grown. It's really unfair to make them unlearn their grandparents' names halfway through their childhoods :/ In all three cases, the catalyst was that some other grandchild was on the way, and the grandparent saw it as an opportunity to reinvent themselves. At my children's expense :/ Fine with me if these people want subsequent grandchildren to call them by another name, but what bothers me is that they insist on using the unfamiliar name with my kids too. I thought the best thing about grandparents was that they provide a *stable* influence in children's lives
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05-01-2015, 03:19 AM | #2 |
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Re: Grandparents changing their names
Honestly, it wouldn't bother me too much. Kids are resilient. People have the right to choose what other people call them.
Have you talked to your kids about it? They may be far less bothered by it than you are. Also, you may find that the "new name" doesn't stick. Sometimes people want to try something new and it just doesn't stick and it all falls back to the old.
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05-01-2015, 03:46 AM | #3 |
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Re: Grandparents changing their names
That would really bug me. My grandparents wanted to go by Omar and Opa of something like that when my kids were born, and it just felt so odd and unnatural, that I tried-but it didn't end up sticking. It sounded babyish to me even though they are Dutch words and not really babyish.
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05-01-2015, 03:56 AM | #5 |
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Re: Grandparents changing their names
My mom has different names from her different families my kids call her Mena or grandma and my nephew calls her Momma.
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05-01-2015, 05:15 AM | #6 |
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Re: Grandparents changing their names
My mom and dad are Oma and Opa to my kids! ️ Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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05-01-2015, 05:45 AM | #7 |
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Re: Grandparents changing their names
This would be very hard for me. My stepbrother decided to go by his first name for professional reasons (after going by his middle name) and I never remember to call him that
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05-01-2015, 05:51 AM | #8 |
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Re: Grandparents changing their names
To me im w Romeo and Juliet
"What's in a name? A rose by any other name would smell as sweet!" While it it hard, I would see how it went over. My parents are Oma and Papa. My IL's are grandma and Grandpa. We used to be Mama and Daddy and my kids naturally went to mon and dad. It was actually hard for me at first but I love my kids and I let it go. My dd1 is 15 and talking about changing her name. She's always felt her name doesn't quite fit her.
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05-01-2015, 06:08 AM | #9 |
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Re: Grandparents changing their names
We have an Oma on the German side and a Tutu on the Hawaiian side.
Our kids grew up calling us Mommy and Daddy but my youngest two have started using Mom and Dad, and it does feel weird. I guess I'll adjust. I agree with 2Sunshines. It may not bother the kids. |
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05-01-2015, 06:14 AM | #10 |
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Re: Grandparents changing their names
That's cool.
I just had a hard time switching and we almost never see them, so I think that didn't help. I think if they lived closer it may have stuck.
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05-01-2015, 06:22 AM | #11 |
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Re: Grandparents changing their names
I'd let them deal with it. If they want to change, they can talk to the kids about it, correct them when they do it the old way, etc.
I'm not a big fan of making big kids (or any kids, but especially big kids) use babyish words, though.
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05-01-2015, 06:31 AM | #12 |
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Re: Grandparents changing their names
I'd tell the kids the grandparents' wishes and then leave it. If they want to use the new names
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05-01-2015, 06:37 AM | #13 |
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Re: Grandparents changing their names
I would respect their wishes, but it might be hard for the kids to use the new names.
When my grandma died and my grandad remarried, my step grandma really wanted me to start calling him grandpa but no way was I doing that at age 14. He was Grandad to me and I was just that stubborn. If he had cared I would have grudgingly made the change, but it was a big deal to me.
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05-01-2015, 08:34 AM | #14 | |
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Anyway, I think it depends on the kids and ages and relationship.
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Re: Grandparents changing their names
Honestly if a grandparent is going to keep changing what they want to be called I wouldn't even tell the kids and try to be as little involved with the whole thing as possible. The grandparent can explain it to them if they want but I wouldn't correct the kids if they forget. .sheez that would bother me
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