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Old 08-31-2010, 09:31 AM   #1
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Angry VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List

So, I get home yesterday and find a catalog from No Greater Joy Ministries in my mailbox WITH MY NAME ON IT!!!!! Only one person I know who would've put my name on their list - MY DAD'S WIFE.

I'm so mad I could spit fire and nails!!!

I called them up immediately and told them to take my name off their mailing list as I didn't subscribe to it. I also told them I don't subscribe to ministries who promote child abuse.
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Default Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List

Good for you!

Are you also going to let your dad's wife know you've cancelled the subscription?
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Old 08-31-2010, 09:36 AM   #3
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Ugh! I would be furious as well!
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Old 08-31-2010, 09:37 AM   #4
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Wow.
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If you get anything else I would return to sender. I'm really sorry.
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Old 08-31-2010, 09:51 AM   #6
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Default Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List

Wow, I'd be upset, too! I don't think it's the best thing to confront your step mother about it, though, considering that you really don't have any evidence that she did it. Instead, don't bring it up and keep praying for her to have a change of heart.
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Default Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List

I would be tempted to do a "wow, step-MIL, can you BELIEVE someone subscribed me to a mailing list without my knowledge or approval?" and go on and on about how ridiculous it was...but that's just me That's my typical MO when I know someone has done something idiotic that I can't prove I love watching them squirm, and it usually nips any other attempts by them right in the bud.

Alternately, I'd buy her a subscription to mothering magazine

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I should say - watching people squirm isn't my usual form of amusement But when someone has been PA enough to do something like that to me, I know they won't have the....round objects required to actually stick up for what they attempted to do.

I play oblivious pretty well, and just act like they are my bestest friend in the whole world that I'm trusting with this little rant It's very, very effective
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I would confront her. That's totally inappropriate and I would call her on it before she decides to do something else inappropriate.
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Wow, ick. I was annoyed that my mom signed me up for stuff that wasn't nasty, but that is wow.
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Wow. Just wow. Does she already know you oppose their methods? If not I would just assume she was trying to be kind/helpful.

Either way,NGJ is just ick.
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Wow. Just wow. Does she already know you oppose their methods? If not I would just assume she was trying to be kind/helpful.

Either way,NGJ is just ick.
Oh yeah, she knows that I oppose their methods. She does NOT like that we AP. She thinks my boys are heathens and that because I help/teach Dakota when I ask him to do something that it's disobedience!
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I would be tempted to do a "wow, step-MIL, can you BELIEVE someone subscribed me to a mailing list without my knowledge or approval?" and go on and on about how ridiculous it was...but that's just me That's my typical MO when I know someone has done something idiotic that I can't prove I love watching them squirm, and it usually nips any other attempts by them right in the bud.

Alternately, I'd buy her a subscription to mothering magazine

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I should say - watching people squirm isn't my usual form of amusement But when someone has been PA enough to do something like that to me, I know they won't have the....round objects required to actually stick up for what they attempted to do.

I play oblivious pretty well, and just act like they are my bestest friend in the whole world that I'm trusting with this little rant It's very, very effective
This is exactly how I would handle it.
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Oh brother! I just got off the phone with my dad. I'm really on fire now!!!

He says he's not sure about the "abuse" stuff with the Pearls, but he seems to sure like them, too. Dear God, help me bite my tongue!

He says I'm making a mistake in not spanking my kids and that by the age of two they should know you mean business. HUH????????

I'm really upset now.
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Oh, no! She got to him, too.

You know, even without factoring in the abuse stuff, the Pearls' teachings are heretical. Check out my arguments from pro-spankers, maybe you can find one to share with him.
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