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03-04-2015, 04:59 PM | #121 | ||||
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Re: Do you let your kids snack after supper?
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That means that "Right" is what works for YOUR child, during THIS stage of his development. Who CARES if it matches, say, Weston A. Price? They're not parenting YOUR child, now, are they? What do you suppose their recommendations would look like if they were, day in and day out? And yes, I do think you should address his eating with the therapist (wait, did you mean his therapist or your counsellor? Well, by all means talk to your counsellor about it too, as in, "How do I deal with these feelings of frustration and helplessness around my child's issues? How can I make this more emotionally healthy and productive?" Quote:
Okay, like rjy9343 said, you choose the lesser of two evils. If you need to wash carrots down with licorice, maybe that's what you need to do. But I'm pretty sure that providing unlimited access to junk food to a child who *has repeatedly shown* that he is not good at self-regulating would be irresponsible. Quote:
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I do think that at 10, he can probably afford to just be hungry for a couple of meals if he decides to be extra contrary. I mean, he has food issues. Granted. If you've made him what he's said he wants and THEN he refuses to eat it and wants something else? I'd be inclined to say, "Tough cookies. Next meal at: " Has experience shown you that this would be effective with him? Or does he actually need to have multiple meals available at any given time? |
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03-04-2015, 05:35 PM | #122 |
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Re: Do you let your kids snack after supper?
He's ten. We're not talking about a tiny toddler or pre-schooler. Barring feeding issues (and that's something to explore with his doctor / therapists), your job is to provide healthy food. He decides if he eats it. If you don't want him filling up on junk, don't bring it into the house. Not knowing any more than what you post, my kids at 10 would have likely chosen the treats / junkier foods if they knew they were there and if they knew I'd cave and let them have those instead of the healthier things I prepared for meals / snacks. I'd guess he knows how worried you are about his eating and he knows he has you over a barrel. If he refuses the healthier options, he likely knows you're going to give him the junkier things he's developed a taste for just to make sure he's eaten *something* ykwim?
In our home, I've always included at least one thing I know each family member will eat. Beyond that, they're welcome to make themselves a bowl of cereal (multi-grain cheerios, raisin bran etc. ... nothing exciting ) or a simple sandwich. No one starves but the option isn't eat this chicken, rice and veggies or fill up on fruit snacks, chips and or Mr. Noodle. Oh, the littlest (age 3) loves hummus and multigrain crackers. Actually, he prefers to just eat the hummus with a spoon so that's a protein he can substitute. But I want to echo Kiara - we have a few anaphylactic food allergies but otherwise are dealing with neurotypical kids and what works in our home may or may not work in yours. I do think though at ten that it may be a preference that he knows will be indulged because you are so worried about him and his food intake. Start small - find a few healthier things that he likes and build from there. And, if it was me, I'd stop bringing in the "junk" (and please know I love me some junk and generally have a hidden stash of chocolate at all times ) until better eating habits are established. Aaaaaand ... lots of post since I started so this may or may not be useful. |
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03-04-2015, 05:51 PM | #123 | |
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---------- Post added at 12:51 AM ---------- Previous post was at 12:43 AM ---------- if the Weston A. Price folks were parenting my kid right now day in and day out, I think they would recommend FOOD over perfection, CALORIES over starvation, SLOWLY adding things to my cooking repertoire as I am able, REJOICE that he loves beef marrow bone broth (!) and cooked spinach and raw cauliflower, build menus around Good-Enough foods he likes, offer lots of food frequently, keep working in my kitchen. Whatever they might recommend, if it was not DOABLE, chuck it. And one more piece of advice that I don't need any expert to give me I can give to myself: even if the food out in the grocery store is not created by God in the sense that it grew in a garden the way it is presented in a box, it can still be "sanctified by the Word of God and prayer" as 1 Timothy tells us.
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Because your son is ten, maybe you two can sit down and discuss what he wants to eat. While I agree that keeping junk in the house is not a good idea, cutting it out all at once may not be possible in your situation. But phasing it out can be done. You can even say no cookies that we do not bake or we only have ice cream if we go out for it to make it more special. ---------- Post added at 08:00 PM ---------- Previous post was at 07:52 PM ---------- Quote:
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03-05-2015, 03:18 PM | #125 | ||||||||
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Re: Do you let your kids snack after supper?
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He's 10. Teach him to cook. Seriously, make a list of precisely TWO things that he can choose to make himself to substitute for a meal if he doesn't like what's offered, and then make him take care of it. NOT junk as a substitute, those two choices. Peanut butter sandwiches are a common substitute I've seen, if he'll eat those. Or an egg and toast, something like that. But at 10, you should be working toward giving him the skills to take care of that himself. |
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03-05-2015, 11:06 PM | #127 |
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Re: Do you let your kids snack after supper?
Have you had your son tested for allergies, autism or sensory issues or any other medical issues? Your son sounds very much like he has sensory issues of some sort to me. If he does, then food is a very scary thing to him. I got through to my husband who wanted to force the issue by comparing forcing her to eat to following him around with a spider. My husband is afraid of spiders and I am not. I explained that forcing her to eat is like me following him around with a big fuzzy spider insisting that he kiss and pet the spider since it just loves him to bits and pieces. Never mind that just thinking about it makes your heart rate go up and your palms sweat, I have decided that you are going to get over this nonsense about spiders no matter what. I am not sure that he completely believes that she fears food, but having a fear that he knows is in his head made him rethink his methods. He is still worried about her, he is just less inclined to take such a hard line with her.
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03-06-2015, 12:34 PM | #128 | ||||||||||
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he is served dinner. doesn't like it. goes to the kitchen looking for something. let's say i have nothing that is "treat, or sweet" in there and he finds nothing else he wants, wanders out , goes to play , your Q. is, will then he be good and hungry for the next meal. no, he will not wait until the next meal he will wait maybe another 1/2 to 1 hour and come back and ask me to make him something. ---------- Post added at 06:36 PM ---------- Previous post was at 06:31 PM ---------- or beg for something sweet or find something that isn't protein like olives and eat that ---------- Post added at 06:37 PM ---------- Previous post was at 06:36 PM ---------- Quote:
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Peanut butter- no go--won't touch any nut! becasue as a baby he broke out in hives with peanuts so he is unwilling to try things like almond butter as well) egg and toast----scrambled eggs, but not toast (he doesnt' eat toast--weird, huh?....) Kiara, here's his favorite go to make himself easy meal that he likes to always have in the house by i only buy 1 or 3 at a time because i don't think they're that good for him--maybe i should reconsider and just buy lots of these: yakisoba or cup of noodles....what do you think? and teaching him to cook is a good idea, yes. he actually can cook the following: mushrooms spinach in olive oil grilled cheese yakisoba "But at 10, you should be working toward giving him the skills to take care of that himself." THIS. ---------- Post added at 06:47 PM ---------- Previous post was at 06:41 PM ---------- Quote:
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03-06-2015, 02:11 PM | #129 |
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Re: Do you let your kids snack after supper?
Mushroom, spinache and grilled cheese, yummy, I'd love that. Does he like it? That's not a bad meal at all, and he can make it himself? Maybe he will grow to be a very refined vegetarian cook one day .
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03-11-2015, 08:03 AM | #130 |
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Re: Do you let your kids snack after supper?
If your son was always getting into the apple juice that dh *has* to have in the house to take his herbs with, what would you ladies do,?
---------- Post added at 03:01 PM ---------- Previous post was at 02:59 PM ---------- That is to say, dh doesn't mind him getting into it - if it runs out he just buys more/ they're gallon size bottles--- ---------- Post added at 03:03 PM ---------- Previous post was at 03:01 PM ---------- --but my son drinks so much of it I'm worried about his heslth. I have asked dh if he could do without it / stop buying it but he says he can't.
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03-11-2015, 12:05 PM | #132 |
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Re: Do you let your kids snack after supper?
That the one good thing sbout it: it's the Santa Cruz unfiltered apple juice. Yeah.
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06-03-2015, 09:59 AM | #133 | |
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Re: Do you let your kids snack after supper?
Do you all think my son's eating balsamic vinegar every day sometimes twice or even three times a day is uhealthy? He craves things like lemon juice (straight) , pickles, and vinegar.
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06-03-2015, 11:19 AM | #134 |
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Re: Do you let your kids snack after supper?
I might be worried about his teeth. Very sour products very often may damage the tooth enamel.
Would he at least agree to eat a piece of cheese with his "treat"? And in any case: do not let him brush his teeth right away. Wait for at least half an hour. You might also try to rinse his mouth with some baking soda (1 teaspoon in a 1/2 glass of water). And explain to him it is to protect his teeth, not to tease him. |
06-03-2015, 02:49 PM | #135 |
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Re: Do you let your kids snack after supper?
Craving acidic or sour foods can mean the stomach acids are out of balance - like he may not be making enough stomach acid.
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