Family Gets Your Best or No One Gets the Rest Help?

[teamommy]

Del

[ArmsOfLove]

Now, what about time lapse? The issues usually happen in the morning and activities are in the evening. If he recovers by the time the activity comes up is it OK to explain to him that as he has recovered I trust that he'll have a great time at the activity? Or is that permissive?
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because it isn't a punishment, the focus needs to be not on restricting things, but on helping the child become equipped with tools for giving family the best. If he pulls himself back together then that's a great thing

And in the together moments focus on tools that will equip him to handle his emotions better, pull himself together, *not* take things out on his family. Maybe he needs to learn to say "I need some alone time" or he needs to tune into his body and feed himself or ask for food when he starts getting hungry. Some children need to be taught when to go to the bathroom. "You feel kind of crazy in your head, right? You feel that feeling in your belly right now. That's your body needing to go pee and you only get one body. God expects you to take are of it. So when you feel like this, take yourself to the bathroom."

And this principle is NOT a stand-alone tool. It only works when it's part of a parenting approach that is equipping the child to be successful

[jandjmommy]

Originally Posted by ArmsOfLove

because it isn't a punishment, the focus needs to be not on restricting things, but on helping the child become equipped with tools for giving family the best. If he pulls himself back together then that's a great thing
Fantastic; thanks! He usually does recover and will come to me on his own and apologize. I need to remember that, stay focused on my own calm, and not jump to thinking he's going to stay grouchy all day.
And in the together moments focus on tools that will equip him to handle his emotions better, pull himself together, *not* take things out on his family. Maybe he needs to learn to say "I need some alone time" or he needs to tune into his body and feed himself or ask for food when he starts getting hungry. Some children need to be taught when to go to the bathroom. "You feel kind of crazy in your head, right? You feel that feeling in your belly right now. That's your body needing to go pee and you only get one body. God expects you to take are of it. So when you feel like this, take yourself to the bathroom."

And this principle is NOT a stand-alone tool. It only works when it's part of a parenting approach that is equipping the child to be successful

Thanks! He is very sensitive to physical needs, especially BMs, which he doesn't have a physical problem with at all but often gets mentally out of sorts a few minutes before. I'm teaching him to run through whether he needs rest, water, food, or to sit on the toilet for a minute "just in case" when he's feeling irritable.