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08-31-2010, 09:31 AM | #1 |
Rose Trellis
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VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
So, I get home yesterday and find a catalog from No Greater Joy Ministries in my mailbox WITH MY NAME ON IT!!!!! Only one person I know who would've put my name on their list - MY DAD'S WIFE.
I'm so mad I could spit fire and nails!!! I called them up immediately and told them to take my name off their mailing list as I didn't subscribe to it. I also told them I don't subscribe to ministries who promote child abuse.
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08-31-2010, 09:36 AM | #2 |
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
Good for you!
Are you also going to let your dad's wife know you've cancelled the subscription? |
09-01-2010, 05:15 AM | #3 | |
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
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SIDENOTE/DIGRESSION: I talked to him this morning, but very general topics. He thinks my majoring in psychology is "psychobabble" and not grounded in science or Scripture for that matter. Well, guess what, dad, I'm going to a CHRISITIAN university that makes you write about psychology according to scripture. But he is supportive of what I've chosen to major in as it is truly fascinating to me.
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09-01-2010, 05:20 AM | #4 | |
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
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09-01-2010, 06:12 AM | #5 |
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
If it had been me, I would have taken the Pearls materials and sat down and wrote copious notes on EVERYTHING in them (this is not scriptural... see "X" scripture. This is abusive and contrary to "X" scripture, etc.) Then I would hand-deliver my copy to the person who sent it to me and tell them that I read it, I didn't agree with it, and I canceled the subscription, but they could have my copy.
For ME, already having grown up with this kind of philosophy, it helps to sit down and minutely deconstruct these kind of arguments so they are exposed for the lies they are, and then writing down what the scriptures actually DO say about those subjects. It is replacing lies with the truth. HOWEVER, I don't think this is a good idea for everyone, because those negative thoughts and images have a way of creeping into your head, even when you know they're wrong. (Garbage in, garbage out)
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08-31-2010, 09:36 AM | #6 |
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
Ugh! I would be furious as well!
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08-31-2010, 09:37 AM | #7 |
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
Wow.
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08-31-2010, 09:40 AM | #8 |
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
If you get anything else I would return to sender. I'm really sorry.
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08-31-2010, 09:51 AM | #9 |
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
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08-31-2010, 09:58 AM | #10 |
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
Wow, I'd be upset, too! I don't think it's the best thing to confront your step mother about it, though, considering that you really don't have any evidence that she did it. Instead, don't bring it up and keep praying for her to have a change of heart.
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08-31-2010, 10:01 AM | #11 |
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
I would be tempted to do a "wow, step-MIL, can you BELIEVE someone subscribed me to a mailing list without my knowledge or approval?" and go on and on about how ridiculous it was...but that's just me That's my typical MO when I know someone has done something idiotic that I can't prove I love watching them squirm, and it usually nips any other attempts by them right in the bud.
Alternately, I'd buy her a subscription to mothering magazine ---------- Post added at 02:01 PM ---------- Previous post was at 01:58 PM ---------- I should say - watching people squirm isn't my usual form of amusement But when someone has been PA enough to do something like that to me, I know they won't have the....round objects required to actually stick up for what they attempted to do. I play oblivious pretty well, and just act like they are my bestest friend in the whole world that I'm trusting with this little rant It's very, very effective |
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08-31-2010, 10:01 AM | #12 |
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
I would confront her. That's totally inappropriate and I would call her on it before she decides to do something else inappropriate.
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08-31-2010, 10:11 AM | #13 |
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
Wow, ick. I was annoyed that my mom signed me up for stuff that wasn't nasty, but that is wow.
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08-31-2010, 10:30 AM | #14 |
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
Wow. Just wow. Does she already know you oppose their methods? If not I would just assume she was trying to be kind/helpful.
Either way,NGJ is just ick. |
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08-31-2010, 10:40 AM | #15 |
Rose Trellis
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Re: VENT: Sooo someone decided I needed to be on the Pearls' Mailing List
Oh yeah, she knows that I oppose their methods. She does NOT like that we AP. She thinks my boys are heathens and that because I help/teach Dakota when I ask him to do something that it's disobedience!
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