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02-16-2012, 03:03 PM | #1 |
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Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second shift?
I followed Babywise pretty religiously with my daughter. She's a year old now and I'm trying to switch into cue-feeding. I'm running into some issues.
1. She's never been a ravenous eater and now with the extra breastmilk, I feel like we're taking a step backward with solid food. She will hardly eat any solids except for a little finger food. 2. We're on second-shift so try to get her to bed later and up earlier (bed -8:30 pm, wake 9:00pm). With Babywise I started doing a "dreamfeed" --waking her around 11:00pm to give her enough to last until 8:30am. She's begun waking earlier and so I'm not sure if I should put her to bed around the same time at night?? Should I give up my dream of the family all living on the same schedule? Have any of you dealt with this? 3. I've done CIO and don't believe in it anymore. I'm trying to BF her before naps but I think she's so on the old schedule that she won't fall asleep for her naps now --she wants to stay awake! Any thoughts are greatly appreciated!! |
02-16-2012, 03:09 PM | #2 |
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
Big and welcome!!
Number 1 isn't a big deal in my mind, breastmilk still has the perfect nutrient content for her, so as long as her decrease in solids is matched with an increase in breastmilk, she's fine. My little guy wasn't interested in solids in any significant way until he was about 18 months. Number 2, I'm not completely clear - are you wanting her to sleep later? My family isn't all on the same schedule - I just do whatever works . Number 3, is she exactly 1 year old? Could she be trying to move to one nap per day? |
02-16-2012, 03:12 PM | #3 |
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
Well, I've never tried making that switch, I always cue-fed.
But it should be possible. For starters, every time she cries, offer nursing. And offer nursing both before and after meals of solids. Basically every time you think of it, offer it. If she doesn't want to, that's fine. But the more you offer it the more different it will be from the previous schedule, and eventually she'll probably take it when she wants it. Breastmilk has far more nutrients than most table foods. Don't worry about how much solids she's eating, she'll take what she needs. And finger foods are fine, just give her those. Purees actually aren't necessary at all for most children, even at 6 months. So really, offer her parts of your meal when you eat, let her feed herself what she wants, and she'll be fine. You may have to give up having the whole family on the same schedule. Some children will happily sleep later, others will not. You probably need to, as much as possible, respect her needs in this area. If she's going to be an early riser, you're going to need to have her in bed earlier too, you know? Just offer before naptimes. You can't force a baby to nurse, and really, trying to force them is no more respectful of their needs than trying to refuse them. Just offer the nursing lots and lots of times a day, and don't worry about it if she's not interested. Many children are pretty distractable around 12 months anyway, and might not nurse to sleep even if you *had* been nursing them to sleep before. Just offer the nursing, and then put her down for the naps however is working for you (except if that's letting her cry, of course.) You may find you need to find an alternate way to get her to sleep. Those could include lying down with her, nursing her to sleep, singing her lullabies, patting her, walking up and down a dark hallway with her, wrapping her in a blanket and holding her until she falls asleep.... |
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02-16-2012, 03:14 PM | #4 |
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
I wanted to add that I did switch my baby from Babywise to cue fed, but he was younger than yours, about 5 months old. I believe it can definitely be done .
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02-16-2012, 03:29 PM | #5 |
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
I don't have any specific advice, I just wanted to say Good For You!!!
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02-16-2012, 03:49 PM | #6 |
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
Dukes of hazzard --I'm sorry! I meant I try to get her to bed later and to get her to sleep later. Seems like that could be a pipe dream
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02-16-2012, 05:25 PM | #7 |
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
I'm no sleep expert, but from what I understand, go-to-sleep times and wake-up times are only loosely correlated. I know from my kids, even if we have a late night for some reason, they still wake up at pretty much the same time. One other thing I've observed is that sleep begets sleep. To a certain extent, my kids will sleep longer stretches (and sometimes later in the morning) if they go to bed *earlier* instead of keeping them up later.
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02-16-2012, 06:03 PM | #8 |
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
For a little while, you might need to just follow her pattern and see what works and not try to shift sleeping schedules. Since you are with her at nap time, can I assume that you are saying your dh works second shift? My dh is in law enforcement and we simply 'did our thing' and saw dh when we could because everyone was much happier than if I had tried to tweek sleeping rythems
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02-16-2012, 07:49 PM | #9 | ||
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
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I was glad to hear your son didn't eat much "solid" food till later --he made out okay And yes --she just turned a year old last Saturday! Maybe moving to one nap?? She still starts turning pretty somber in the morning before a nap (goes down fine for that one). I really encourage her to take the afternoon nap because she gets tired a lot earlier at night if she doesn't take it. Maybe that means I should be putting her down earlier?? I'll definitely keep your thought about naps in mind. ---------- Post added at 10:49 PM ---------- Previous post was at 10:40 PM ---------- Quote:
"Respectful" --great word choice. It helps me to remember that when I'm feeling like "I'm the parent" and feel like I need to control the situation. She's a person, albeit a little one!! It's kind of scary to think of never letting her cry --it makes me feel trapped --but I DO agree with not CIO!! Praying for God's wisdom for each nap Thanks for the ideas on how to get her down for a nap! |
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02-16-2012, 08:02 PM | #10 |
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
I was convinced BW was the way to parent too, but thankfully, before DD was even a day old, I knew it wouldn't work for us.
It's hard coming out of that mindset though. We're glad you're here! This is a great community to be a part of to be supported and encouraged during your parenting journey. Sorry, don't have any advice with the sleeping/eating stuff--but what you've already received is excellent!
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02-16-2012, 08:23 PM | #11 |
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
Just a few things.
She will cry at some point and that doesn't mean you're a bad mom. It means that she's crying. I've AP/GBD since birth and mine still cry. As they transition from being a baby to being a toddler, the focus isn't on not letting them cry so much as it is on meeting their needs. It's a hard transition to make mentally--at least it was for me with our first! Second, both of mine were ready to go to one nap by a year old, which meant bed time got moved up a whole lot. They just kept doing morning naps later and later and then going to bed sooner. So right now, Dancing is dropping her last nap. So on days she doesn't nap, she's in bed by 6:30 ish. When she naps, it's about 7:30. She does 11-12 hours at night (not straight! She nurses a few time each night ). When they aren't falling asleep nursing for naps, that's my cue that they're ready to drop a nap. Try it, if you can, for a few days. She may pleasantly surprise you! And last, to you. It's a big giant leap to go from BW to GBD. Give yourself lots of grace as you're working through this. Your wee one thanks you for doing it, though.
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02-16-2012, 11:09 PM | #12 | ||
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
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02-16-2012, 11:47 PM | #13 |
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
On the solid foods thing- with a one year old, I'm just barely getting into offering them a few times a day. If we are out and about and busy or if I frankly just don't feel like dealing with the mess, I don't even give them solids. Of course, that means nursing many times a day, but I really prefer that to cleaning food out of hair three times a day, and they get more calories and nutrition that way anyway. It's a slow transition, but by 18 months or so, they are eating way more solids.
Are you feeling trapped because you feel like you'll be held hostage by her emotions? It would be really good to start identifying why you feel that way and working through it, now. She's becoming a toddler who is going to have a lot of BIG feelings about a lot of things very soon. That's ok. You just need to be bigger than her big feelings. You can learn to reflect her feelings and be compassionate to her without getting wrapped up in her angst.
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02-17-2012, 06:34 AM | #14 |
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
I want to come back when I have 2 free hands. I used BW with my oldest for almost a year so ITU.
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02-17-2012, 08:32 AM | #15 |
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Re: Can you switch a Babywise baby into a cue-fed baby at one year old?? On second sh
I don't have any advice for you, and other mamas have already said what I was going to say (like that my 13mo sometimes eats a little finger food, but bm other than that, and he also recently went to one nap and goes to sleep from 6:30-6:30). I just wanted to welcome you here. I get so when I see a mama listen to that intuition God gave us, and respond sensitively to her baby. Yay for you!
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