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03-17-2006, 08:18 PM | #106 | |
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03-17-2006, 08:19 PM | #107 |
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Legally, free speech/free press laws cover the Pearls. There is a presumption in our country that the burden is on readers to sort out the good from the bad.
That's not to say that God can't redeem this horrible tragedy by drawing attention to what a book like this can do in the hands of some people who may not have what it takes to not lose control or perspective. (Not to mention that the concept of "perspective" is dicey in a book that describes the author hitting a two year old repeatedly with a plastic toy with all her might, just to give him the message to stop hitting her. ) Anyways this incident should really cause people who buy the book in bulk to hand out pause. |
03-17-2006, 08:23 PM | #108 | |
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03-17-2006, 08:46 PM | #109 | |
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I think the only ones that it will give a pause to is the ones who aren't doing a good job stuffing their anger or emotionally disconnecting.. |
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03-17-2006, 11:05 PM | #110 |
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I originally read the store from a poster on the MOPs website.... it made me so sad to read posters DEFENDING the Pearls methods on there.... makes me ill honestly. I have thought about it all day long and it just makes me want to cry.
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03-18-2006, 12:25 AM | #111 |
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I went over to church earlier this afternoon and tried to find all the Dobson books about children (and any other books) in the church library and pulled them out. At Christmas when DD was here we found one of Dobson's books there that mentions him beating his dog with a belt... well, now I can't find it. Anyone remember the name? As soon as I can find it and reread portions of it, I am going to write him. I was too scared when I read it the first time, but now 32 years later, I'm not. Pray that I will remember where I put that silly little book.
Thanks. P.S. I've never done anything with Adobe before but maybe I'll try to put the pamphlets in the Abode form because most people have it. I don't know how many would have Microsoft Publisher. I do have most of Crystal's articles in Publisher now, so if anyone who has Publisher wants any, I'll just attach the article to and e-mail and send it to you.
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03-18-2006, 01:44 AM | #112 | |
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I know about that board rule , and that is why I was trying to be very careful in how I stated my last post. I know this is not the controversial forum, and is not a message board to endorse spankings and such. So, again, I was trying to be careful in how I stated things. But to answer your question... am I endorsing the Pearls? Well, if I were I wouldn't do it here LOL I know that wouldn't be well received. I do not agree with everything that they write; there are some specific things that I do not agree with. However I do not believe that they advocate 'beating' one's children, either, and certainly not killing a child. Debra mentioned that Quote:
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03-18-2006, 05:40 AM | #114 | ||
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Thanks for taking the time to answer my question And while I think I understand clearly now where you are coming from , you just eloquently made my point in fewer words than I've been doing Quote:
I know every person takes things from various sorces and meshes them together to make an individual family plan. I certainly do But I refuse to use as a source any book that I couldn't safely follow exactly as written, even if I choose not to, KWIM? Quote:
Also, just imagine the outrage if Mr. Pearl advocated repeated training swats for new wives! He long ago would have been stopped because of advocating hate crimes toward women. As far as the 'until they are broken' part - I'll have to get the book back and check. I have an AP mama friend who borrowed them to refute what her family was pushing at her But it is there...especially in stories like the car seat illustration, where you are supposed to strap them in the car seat in the *living room* just to make them learn to submit to your authority *shudder* They do advocate tying strings - which is a great concept. I hope one day they allow God to show them that 'repeated training swats' and tripping toddlers into open water isn't the most effective method of doing that. |
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03-18-2006, 05:57 AM | #115 |
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I *know* the beating/spanking until they are "happy" or until they are "sweet" or until they are "broken" is standard fare among Tripp, Ezzo, and Dobson. So I wouldn't be surprised if others who advocate corporeal punishment, like the Pearls, are saying the same thing. That doesn't sound like it should/could be a point of contention if even Dobson is saying that and has been saying that for years.
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03-18-2006, 06:11 AM | #117 |
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OK well.... in re-reading the article, I admit that I do not see anywhere mentioning that a 2-ft "pipe" was used. The article states that she had several pieces of 2-ft plumbing supply lines in several rooms of her farmhouse. Just to clarify that, yes there is a big difference, but I guess I got the "pipe" from another post and not the actual article.
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03-18-2006, 06:25 AM | #118 | |
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03-18-2006, 06:31 AM | #119 |
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Swats, switches, "Licks" (I don't get that one), Knots on the head, whatever.
The hyper punitive teachers (and the Pearls are the worst I've seen,) teach that you must continue spanking until the child's will has been broken. They make some effort to distinguish the spirit from the will but they also have little (I believe pseudo) Q and A sessions in which the A to the Q "I spank and they're still disobedient" is something like, "Oh, that's because you gave up, you need to continue spanking until their will is broken." Of course, they don't use the word, "beat," but what else is is besides a beating? I guess we're going to debate Michael Pearl told parents to throw their kids in the pond to teach them to be afraid of water? DB |
03-18-2006, 06:47 AM | #120 | |
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The presence of "tying strings" in the Pearl's advice does not mitigate that their entire approach to child rearing is adversarial, punitive and sets the stage for abuse (not spanking, abuse). There is nothing, absolutely nothing, in their writing worthwhile that can't be learned from reasonable sources. |
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