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06-12-2006, 07:22 AM | #1 |
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Parenting with love and logic
Does it seem awfully punitive, or is it just me? It seems to take a really negative view of children, like the question of do you wake up out of a deep sleep when Johnny wails from his crib. My friend recommended it, she is trying to do less spanking and use logical consequences with her two daughters. Thoughts?
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06-12-2006, 01:15 PM | #2 |
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Re: Parenting with love and logic
Well, by the 'view' count I guess there are 22 of us that haven't read the books, so we don't have an opinion If you feel it is punitive and adversarial, I think you are probably right! Maybe it would be a good opportunity to talk about that with your friend about what you like and what subtle messages you don't like. I think it is important to understand the underlying messages some of theses books present (us-against-them) and that might help her succeed in not spanking and enjoying her kids more.
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06-12-2006, 01:26 PM | #3 |
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Re: Parenting with love and logic
I was just going to post about this author. He is going to give a free parenting seminar in my town and I was wondering about him. I've heard of the books but I've never read them myself. I am interested to hear what all of you have to say. Tammy, I am interested to hear from you also. (Since you are reading the book)
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06-12-2006, 01:52 PM | #4 |
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Re: Parenting with love and logic
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06-12-2006, 02:31 PM | #5 |
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Re: Parenting with love and logic
There are other threads on this. I believe in UPP too. I like logical parenting, but can't remember what I liked and didn't like
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06-12-2006, 03:46 PM | #6 |
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Re: Parenting with love and logic
I haven't read the book in awhile, but I have been to the website and my own impression was that it had a very "passive/aggressive" feel to it. It seemed to use "natural consequences" as a more subtle form of punishment... a kind of "that's what you get" attitude. It didn't sound like the way I would want to be treated.
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06-12-2006, 03:48 PM | #7 |
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Re: Parenting with love and logic
Yeah, there's a fair amount of past posts on it. I searched for it a while back because we were looking at a church that was offering the curriculum. A fellow GCM mom that I know IRL told me that when she worked at a foster agency they had a family who had all the kids removed from their home based on the way they implemented L&L.
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06-12-2006, 07:03 PM | #8 |
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Re: Parenting with love and logic
If a parent is very permissive, L&L can give them the guts to set some good reasonable boundaries and let their children deal with some reasonable natural consequences. It was very helpful for my SIL who was so over the top permissive and tended to create these perfect environments for her children. I'm all for setting them up for success but she wouldn't allow any chance of unpleasantness or disappointment. However, I have also seen it taken to an extreme of very cold detached parenting where children are left to fend for themselves in the name of consequences. I would go to a seminar by them but I would be very careful who I asked to go with me because I wouldn't want to influence someone who might be vulnerable to the extremes.
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