Walmart Discipline Experience. - Page 5

Maggie · 06-08-2010, 12:31 PM

Thanks for explaining the posturing, Manda! That sounds really helpful. I'll have to be conscious of that.

Lantern Light Mama · 06-08-2010, 12:35 PM

Today Mason was acting up pretty bad. He got upset because he wanted something that was dangerous and I would not let him have it. He screamed at me, he hit me, and told me he was going to get it by himself. We were in the middle of a Mason meltdown. Guess what I did? I gave him a cup of ice water, and slowely the screaming stopped. Then he became calmer and finally sat down to play.

Why does this work so well? I guess I need to always have ice water on me. That lady really knew a great thing to do for a meltdown. I wonder how she knew this and I wonder if she knows that what she did is helping other families?

I'd like to thank her.

jandjmommy · 06-09-2010, 06:15 AM

Another success story here, thanks to your post! We were at a children's play museum yesterday; DD3 was getting irritated with the toddlers who wanted to touch the things in "her" shopping cart. Normally I would have become irritated myself & embarrassed that she was snatching things from other kids. But! I had put ice cold drinks in my purse remembering your story. So I said, "I think a nice cold drink would feel great right now!" in a cheerful voice. DD dropped her end of the empty syrup bottle -- victory for the toddler who wanted it! -- and trotted right after me to get her drink. She asked to sit down & we sat and chatted for a few minutes while she drank--not about the snatching--then she asked me for a kiss, jumped down, & played sweetly the rest of our visit.
THANK YOU!!!!

Garland · 06-09-2010, 07:03 AM

Wow, that was very bold and sweet of her. What a great example.

06-10-2010, 09:53 AM

I keep rereading this post and every time it makes me cry a little. That is such a good story!

ValiantJoy07 · 06-10-2010, 05:30 PM

That seriously made me cry. That was beautiful. What a wise sweet gracious thing.

The more I see Grace in action the more... It's beautiful.

amyhntr2 · 06-10-2010, 08:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ValiantJoy07

The more I see Grace in action the more... It's beautiful.

this

CrunchySeaSalt · 06-11-2010, 06:16 AM

Thank you, I applied this yesterday.
My friend was visiting for the second time. Her son (4y/o) has (had and still does worsening) issues of which she is trying to learn about thru therapy and is still in the beginning phase of getting a handle on it.

He had whacked her with a hard object on purpose b/c she asked him to leave the room he was not allowed in and after catching him (he ran)she had him pinned in a bear hug. He was screaming and shrieking and worked himself into a total mess. After about 5 min of this, I was getting desperate b/c my child was scared and refused to leave her chair in hte other room. (totally new for her to see this sort of thing)

I went in and offerred him some cold water in his straw-cup, held it for him (he was still in bear hug

) and after gulping it down, he calmed down enough she could release his arms and let him pull himself together to a resonable extent.

I think if something breaks the screaming cycle, it gives a chance for exhaustion to kick in and releases/stops the adrenaline boost they are drawing from.

It appears "drinks" are the draw from what I am reading.

Anyway thanks,

had I not read this who knows what could have happened b/c the mom was ready to explode as well, her eyes told volumes. I think the bear hug was for her benefit too as to keep herself under control.

BlessedBlue · 06-11-2010, 06:21 AM

One lady at Walmart - one positive event, and look at how it's rippling out! There was a bargain that day at Wally-world!

Damselfly · 06-11-2010, 08:59 AM

Thank you so much for sharing this. What a beautiful lady and what a great example for all of us!

Danae · 06-11-2010, 12:42 PM

I just used the cold water trick today. LO, age 23 months, was having a complete meltdown in her car seat. I pulled over, got in the backseat, and gave her a sippy cup of ice water. She calmed down immediately and we had no more crying on the trip home.

Wonderful tip!

J3K · 06-11-2010, 12:47 PM

That is so beautiful. I am sitting here with watery eyes.

I'll betcha that Walmart employee is really an angel.

ThreeKids · 06-11-2010, 12:54 PM

That would be a cute sentiment to put in a letter to Wal-Mart. "Don't be surprised if you can't track down the employee because I suspect she was an angel making a quick stop."

Wonder Woman · 06-14-2010, 06:20 PM

what an awesome story!

I think those are the kind of things Jesus was talking about when He said

Quote:

For whosoever shall give you a cup of water to drink in my name, because ye belong to Christ, verily I say unto you, he shall not lose his reward.

kwisie · 06-14-2010, 08:07 PM

That's exactly what I've been thinking, Wonder Woman.

06-08-2010, 12:31 PM	#61
Maggie Deactivated love Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 23,071	Re: Walmart Discipline Experience. Thanks for explaining the posturing, Manda! That sounds really helpful. I'll have to be conscious of that.

06-08-2010, 12:35 PM	#62
Lantern Light Mama Deactivated A.K.A. joyinthspirit Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: stuck in a labor time warp Posts: 11,730	Re: Walmart Discipline Experience. Today Mason was acting up pretty bad. He got upset because he wanted something that was dangerous and I would not let him have it. He screamed at me, he hit me, and told me he was going to get it by himself. We were in the middle of a Mason meltdown. Guess what I did? I gave him a cup of ice water, and slowely the screaming stopped. Then he became calmer and finally sat down to play. Why does this work so well? I guess I need to always have ice water on me. That lady really knew a great thing to do for a meltdown. I wonder how she knew this and I wonder if she knows that what she did is helping other families? I'd like to thank her.

06-09-2010, 06:15 AM	#63
jandjmommy Rose Bouquet Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 750	Re: Walmart Discipline Experience. Another success story here, thanks to your post! We were at a children's play museum yesterday; DD3 was getting irritated with the toddlers who wanted to touch the things in "her" shopping cart. Normally I would have become irritated myself & embarrassed that she was snatching things from other kids. But! I had put ice cold drinks in my purse remembering your story. So I said, "I think a nice cold drink would feel great right now!" in a cheerful voice. DD dropped her end of the empty syrup bottle -- victory for the toddler who wanted it! -- and trotted right after me to get her drink. She asked to sit down & we sat and chatted for a few minutes while she drank--not about the snatching--then she asked me for a kiss, jumped down, & played sweetly the rest of our visit. THANK YOU!!!!

06-09-2010, 07:03 AM	#64
Garland Rose Trellis Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 3,308	Re: Walmart Discipline Experience. Wow, that was very bold and sweet of her. What a great example. __________________ ~ Garland ~ INFJ ~ Mom to a big bunch of kids!

06-10-2010, 09:53 AM	#65
susannah Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Walmart Discipline Experience. I keep rereading this post and every time it makes me cry a little. That is such a good story!

06-10-2010, 05:30 PM	#66
ValiantJoy07 Rose Garden "Take Joy Home, And make a place in thy great heart for her...Joy is the grace we say to God." ~Jean Ingelow~ Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: The Forest Posts: 16,337	Re: Walmart Discipline Experience. That seriously made me cry. That was beautiful. What a wise sweet gracious thing. The more I see Grace in action the more... It's beautiful. __________________ Hannah Joy Intuitive People Loving Introvert Married since '05 to Ryan software and web applications developer. Homeschooling Mama to my 5 Joys... dd1 RJ (12/07), dd2 AJ (08/09), dd3 PJ (01/12), ds1 Ziggy (09/15), ds2 Sunny (05/18) Enjoying a Healing Diet to manage SPD and other health challenges. Sorry for the typos and sloppy grammar I don't have a good excuse anymore.

06-11-2010, 06:16 AM	#68
CrunchySeaSalt Rose Trellis Fighting APD and hoping to win soon! Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: East Coast Posts: 2,540	Re: Walmart Discipline Experience. Thank you, I applied this yesterday. My friend was visiting for the second time. Her son (4y/o) has (had and still does worsening) issues of which she is trying to learn about thru therapy and is still in the beginning phase of getting a handle on it. He had whacked her with a hard object on purpose b/c she asked him to leave the room he was not allowed in and after catching him (he ran)she had him pinned in a bear hug. He was screaming and shrieking and worked himself into a total mess. After about 5 min of this, I was getting desperate b/c my child was scared and refused to leave her chair in hte other room. (totally new for her to see this sort of thing) I went in and offerred him some cold water in his straw-cup, held it for him (he was still in bear hug ) and after gulping it down, he calmed down enough she could release his arms and let him pull himself together to a resonable extent. I think if something breaks the screaming cycle, it gives a chance for exhaustion to kick in and releases/stops the adrenaline boost they are drawing from. It appears "drinks" are the draw from what I am reading. Anyway thanks, had I not read this who knows what could have happened b/c the mom was ready to explode as well, her eyes told volumes. I think the bear hug was for her benefit too as to keep herself under control.

06-11-2010, 06:21 AM	#69
BlessedBlue Rose Garden Have you ever heard a fly roar? Listen carefully! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Walking with broken bootstraps... Posts: 7,152	Re: Walmart Discipline Experience. One lady at Walmart - one positive event, and look at how it's rippling out! There was a bargain that day at Wally-world! __________________ sister to Blue-EyedLady since forever wife to Trooper (Wounded Warrior) 3-98 Graphics designing sapphiremama to EBug 2-04, ABoo 2-06, and Goggle 8-09

06-11-2010, 08:59 AM	#70
Damselfly Deactivated Formerly Jadeswan ;) Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 5,510	Re: Walmart Discipline Experience. Thank you so much for sharing this. What a beautiful lady and what a great example for all of us!

06-11-2010, 12:42 PM	#71
Danae Rose Blossom Join Date: Jun 2010 Posts: 195	Re: Walmart Discipline Experience. I just used the cold water trick today. LO, age 23 months, was having a complete meltdown in her car seat. I pulled over, got in the backseat, and gave her a sippy cup of ice water. She calmed down immediately and we had no more crying on the trip home. Wonderful tip!

06-11-2010, 12:47 PM	#72
J3K Deactivated Hi ! I'm Myrtle. I like to pretend I'm an R.O.U.S. Join Date: May 2005 Location: under the cat Posts: 17,112	Re: Walmart Discipline Experience. That is so beautiful. I am sitting here with watery eyes. I'll betcha that Walmart employee is really an angel.

06-11-2010, 12:54 PM	#73
ThreeKids Rose Garden Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: .. Posts: 10,737	Re: Walmart Discipline Experience. That would be a cute sentiment to put in a letter to Wal-Mart. "Don't be surprised if you can't track down the employee because I suspect she was an angel making a quick stop." __________________ DS (12), DD (10), DD2 (7) And my kids were going to behave perfectly all the time and if they didn't, they'd be Dobsoned, but I was going to Dobson so perfectly that they'd know not to slip up but once or twice because I was going to be sooooooo consistent and awesome and wise.

06-14-2010, 08:07 PM	#75
kwisie Rose Garden Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: In my sparkly place Posts: 15,140	Re: Walmart Discipline Experience. That's exactly what I've been thinking, Wonder Woman. __________________ *Karen* 4 Wielder of the Sparkly Pencil of Sneak-Attack Silliness. Flowery Sunshine Power Woman

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