operation bed separation is not going well

[esperanza]

We were on vacation a couple weeks ago and due to the room set up, ds was on a mattress on the floor next to our queen size bed. It was the first time he hadn't been right on our level, and he slept great! Zero or one wake ups each night! Hallelujah! I figured this was the answer- maybe he really needed to be in his own space.

We came home and moved his twin bed that had been right next to our queen bed away from our bed. Still in our room, but perpendicular and not touching at all. It's been a mess.

He wakes up at least once, usually twice, sometimes more (so this is how he usually sleeps not on vacation), but now every time I have to get up and go over to his bed. I lay down with him planning to stay awake, inevitably I fall asleep, wake up a couple hours later, go back to our bed, and then repeat next time he wakes up.

I also got so sick of the night nursing and told him (again) that we're done nursing at night. Two nights ago it was great- woke once, just asked for snuggles, fine when I told him he couldn't nurse, it was great. I really thought we'd turned a corner and was so excited. Last night he woke up many times, hysterical each time, so upset about nursing, ended up nursing him because I just wanted sleep, then later brought him into our bed and no one slept well because we're all crammed into a smaller space. Ugh.

So is this how it's supposed to go once you move their bed away from yours? Because I thought this would help things and it isn't (night weaning aside). The getting up and going to his bed and then back to my bed is giving me even less sleep. I hesitate to push his bed back though. He's going to be three this month, and I really want to start pushing him to more independence and thinking about moving to his own room. He's fine with his bed separate from ours, but has no interest in moving to his own room yet.