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05-14-2019, 01:42 PM | #1 |
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"How do you discipline your child?"
When you take a child to a mental health provider, sometimes also just the pediatrician though then it's not as in depth, they ask "how do you discipline your child? What works/doesn't work?" Even worse, it's often on a form. I never know how to answer this question. Since it's for a mental health provider, they want more than just "I don't spank". That response is fine for the pediatrician, she's always visibly relieved when I assure her we don't do that and then she moves on. But the therapists want more information and now I'm looking at a form for a psychiatrist with this question and I can't think of something succinct that says what we do. "teaching, practicing, making amends"? How do you answer this? We don't spank or do a traditional time-out but we do discipline and require a level of cooperation and obedience (though we don't use that word often) so I have a hard time communicating that.
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05-14-2019, 01:45 PM | #2 |
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Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
Are there any modern “buzz words” that would convey your discipline techniques without being too cumbersome?
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05-14-2019, 01:49 PM | #3 |
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Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
When I first answered attachment and gentle parenting, I was asked what that was, so I haven't used it again. I've just always kinda floundered and said a whole bunch of things I would love some buzzwords that would mean something to the psychiatrist.
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05-14-2019, 01:50 PM | #4 |
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Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
Logical consequences is what I would say personally.
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05-14-2019, 02:28 PM | #5 |
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Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
Positive discipline
Reasonable and related consequences
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05-14-2019, 02:34 PM | #6 |
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Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
We say positive discipline
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05-14-2019, 05:22 PM | #7 | |
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Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
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Um that’s really weird to me because attachment theory should be very well known to psychiatrists... hmm... Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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05-14-2019, 05:58 PM | #8 |
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Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
It may be that lots of people use those terms to mean very different things.
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05-14-2019, 06:42 PM | #9 |
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Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
I think that's the issue, the term can be vague, and there are "levels" to it. I like positive parenting, with natural or logical consequences. I think that would give someone an idea
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05-15-2019, 12:28 PM | #10 |
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Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
If the therapist really does not know what attachment parenting is maybe you could advise him a good book to read about it.
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05-15-2019, 03:37 PM | #11 |
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Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
Firm boundaries on non negotiable issues, which we try to keep to a minimum.
Discussion and trying to come to mutual agreement on the rest. Natural and logical consequences. |
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