Is Dobson better with older kids (tween & up)?

klpmommy · 10-17-2011, 07:23 PM

one handed now so i'll expand tomorrow, but the pastor quoted Dobson in the service yesterday and I liked what he said. I know that there can be good among the bad & punitive stuff, but it made me wonder if he was more on track with older kids or if he was a "broken watch" (you know, still right twice a day).

post 5 has more.

klpmommy · 10-18-2011, 05:23 AM

melliethepooh · 10-18-2011, 05:39 AM

Um...what did he say?

I don't think my Dobson-influenced parents had any more luck using him on me as a teen...

PrincessAnika · 10-18-2011, 05:41 AM

klpmommy · 10-18-2011, 05:51 AM

I have 2 hands!!!

The basic story was that there was a mom who was telling Dr. Dobson that she and her 12 y/o dd had been having the worst year ever, fighting constantly. He asked what was going on and she said that her dd wanted to shave her legs but mom felt that she was too young. Dr. Dobson's basic response was that while he understood, making this a point to ruin a relationship over was not worth it and to let her shave her legs. Save this kind of "battle" over the big things like drugs.

It just made me wonder if his stuff for older kids was better or if it was one of the good things mixed in with the punitive stuff.

Llee · 10-18-2011, 05:55 AM

I read his stuff for olders when I was in my late teens/early 20s and it seemed to fit in pretty well for what I wished far, at that age.

Deborah Tannen's book "You're Wearing That?" was much better at maintaining relationship between my mom and I--we both read it and began to understand each other a lot more.

teamommy · 10-18-2011, 06:05 AM

Could be, because I have thought he actually has a few good things to say, and if you get rid of the spanking and adversarial stuff for the younger kids, then maybe?

mommy9994 · 10-18-2011, 06:19 AM

I would say out of all of them out there, if you take out the punitive stuff, Dobson is the best. I would say that Tripp has some good points too, but his bare butt spanking is too creepy for me to get past

10-17-2011, 07:23 PM	#1
klpmommy Deactivated Beware the gorgon, she's having a bad hair day Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: DFW area Posts: 54,024	Is Dobson better with older kids (tween & up)? one handed now so i'll expand tomorrow, but the pastor quoted Dobson in the service yesterday and I liked what he said. I know that there can be good among the bad & punitive stuff, but it made me wonder if he was more on track with older kids or if he was a "broken watch" (you know, still right twice a day). post 5 has more. Last edited by klpmommy; 10-18-2011 at 05:52 AM.

10-18-2011, 05:23 AM	#2
klpmommy Deactivated Beware the gorgon, she's having a bad hair day Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: DFW area Posts: 54,024	Re: Is Dobson better with older kids (tween & up)?

10-18-2011, 05:39 AM	#3
melliethepooh Rose Garden Dinosaurs are people too Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 5,981	Re: Is Dobson better with older kids (tween & up)? Um...what did he say? I don't think my Dobson-influenced parents had any more luck using him on me as a teen... __________________ Melinda, INTJ Married to Mr since 12/06 ENTP Mama to all the babies, 1/09 ISTJ and 11/11 ExxP and 5/14 ExxP and NEW ONE 8/16

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10-18-2011, 05:51 AM	#5
klpmommy Deactivated Beware the gorgon, she's having a bad hair day Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: DFW area Posts: 54,024	Re: Is Dobson better with older kids (tween & up)? I have 2 hands!!! The basic story was that there was a mom who was telling Dr. Dobson that she and her 12 y/o dd had been having the worst year ever, fighting constantly. He asked what was going on and she said that her dd wanted to shave her legs but mom felt that she was too young. Dr. Dobson's basic response was that while he understood, making this a point to ruin a relationship over was not worth it and to let her shave her legs. Save this kind of "battle" over the big things like drugs. It just made me wonder if his stuff for older kids was better or if it was one of the good things mixed in with the punitive stuff.

10-18-2011, 05:55 AM	#6
Llee Moderator Dancing stands with all seahorses who are journeying to freedom Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 19,197	Re: Is Dobson better with older kids (tween & up)? I read his stuff for olders when I was in my late teens/early 20s and it seemed to fit in pretty well for what I wished far, at that age. Deborah Tannen's book "You're Wearing That?" was much better at maintaining relationship between my mom and I--we both read it and began to understand each other a lot more. __________________ It's me, dh, Dressy Bessy (Sept 08) and Dancing Daisy (May 10) Lead the children to see in every pleasant and beautiful thing an expression of God's love for them. Recommend your religion to them by its pleasantness. Let the law of kindness be in your lips. ~Ellen G. White

10-18-2011, 06:05 AM	#7
teamommy Rose Garden Spring! Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,024	Re: Is Dobson better with older kids (tween & up)? Could be, because I have thought he actually has a few good things to say, and if you get rid of the spanking and adversarial stuff for the younger kids, then maybe?

10-18-2011, 06:19 AM	#8
mommy9994 Rose Bush Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 379	Re: Is Dobson better with older kids (tween & up)? I would say out of all of them out there, if you take out the punitive stuff, Dobson is the best. I would say that Tripp has some good points too, but his bare butt spanking is too creepy for me to get past __________________ Amy, wife to Dan since July, 1994 striving to be a gentler mommy to Alekzandr Charles Aliana Rebekah Lydia trusting the Lord for any future children. Feel free to pm me about food allergies, eczema, complementarian marriage, homeschooling, breastfeeding, large family...

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