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Old 09-16-2008, 03:55 PM   #16
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I've found this to be very helpful for me as well - although, personally, I noticed a HUGE difference in maturity at 7. It was as if a switch flipped with my older two on their 7th birthday.
I have seen this with my own 7yo too -even though he is still less mature than his peers. But he had a "switch" 5 as well.

So Crystal. You would say a 5 yo is still an "infant" as well? I think I have seen instant maturity jumps at a few birthdays. I just know that for DD is was *very* important for me to embrace her immaturity and I had an silent mantra "She is still a baby" almost all year. Now at 5 she is already blossoming

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Yes--it's most assuredly time to protect and transition into teaching. I've come to find that transitioning from primarily teaching to focusing on correction is better from 8 to 12 and then turning over to natural consequences is the adolescent years
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Old 09-16-2008, 04:00 PM   #18
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So then using our familiar words - C would be a "toddler" with 5 being that transition age
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Old 09-16-2008, 04:58 PM   #19
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Old 09-16-2008, 06:07 PM   #20
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this is awesome!
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Old 09-16-2008, 06:32 PM   #22
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Thanks for writing that all out.

I do have an understanding of it, but sometimes I get caught up in unrealistic expectations, or allow myself to become angry or frustrated over little accidents.
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That's SO interesting! I would like to study more about it, what's your source?
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Just thinking more on this- I think this also goes along with a higher "age of accountability" that goes well with brain development research.
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Just thinking more on this- I think this also goes along with a higher "age of accountability" that goes well with brain development research.
True. I love CEF for their heart, but I think sometimes they try too hard with kids that are just too young
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It reminded me of something else from Crystal's Biblical Parenting. She talks about toddlers/preschoolers being in an in-between stage of needing to have all needs met (infancy), and a teaching stage.

When a preschooler (or even early elementary age child) is having a good day, then we lean more to the teaching side with letting them experience some appropriate natural consequences. Conversely, if the child is having a "bad" or difficult day, you would lean more toward the infancy model of meeting most of their needs (babying them in an age-appropriate way ).

I know this thinking has helped me to show grace to my preschooler many times I otherwise would have grown frustrated and/or punitive.
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That's a really great way to look at it, and so true . I've noticed a HUGE change in my middle daughter since she turned 6. It's like someone turned a light switch. My 4 y/o is still very little and it's really helpful to think of it this way.

I too noticed a big BIG change when my oldest turned 7.
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Old 09-16-2008, 07:16 PM   #28
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That's what I love about Ilana's teacher. She is always saying, "they're just so little still" Her Kindergarten teacher was always pushing them and expecting more out of them. I couldn't get her to understand the fact that they haven't been around that long and it's all still so new to them.
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Interesting! I was actually gonna post a question about if kids can be advanced physically, verbally & mentally, but still babies emotionally. I think thas wut my kids R, and I know I need to remind myself that just cuz they talk, act and move like older kids, they R still very little ones. It is hard 2 remember sometimes tho, when they R capable of something one day, and suddenly act as if they're not on another day.
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