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View Poll Results: Which Punitive Parenting Ideas Influenced You?
Pearl's / Woodshed's 20 16.39%
Dobson's 51 41.80%
Fugate's 4 3.28%
Ezzo's 27 22.13%
Other 20 16.39%
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Old 10-05-2014, 10:15 PM   #61
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I just realized how old this thread is.
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Old 10-06-2014, 07:40 AM   #62
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It jumped from 2005 to 2014!
Wow,some old names mentioned here. David Wilkerson is the one who surprised me the most. Although he only wrote the preface for an awful book...I won't be able to think of him the same way.

My life was heavily affected by Dobson and Bill Gothard. I read Dobson's books many many times from age twelve to my early twenties when I was invited to gcm. At twelve,I was surprised to find my childhood laid out in a book,but I was still a child....And I wanted what my parents chose to be the Right thing.

Even after eight years of gcm,I will still occasionally slip into threatening,shame-based behavior and my husband raises his eyebrows and says "Honey,that wasn't you,that was Dobson."
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I was mainly influenced by: The Pearls, Raising Godly Tomatoes (back when it was called The Woodshed), and Dobson (as a second generation under the influence).
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I'll say Dobson via my mother, since that was the only thing she read. 'The Strong-Willed Child' was one of her favourites. :/
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"Wow,some old names mentioned here. David Wilkerson is the one who surprised me the most. Although he only wrote the preface for an awful book...I won't be able to think of him the same way."

Yep, some old names here indeed. The preface by David Wilkerson to this awful book (The Christian Family by Larry Christenson) was also awful by itself. It was not just something like: "I hereby recommend this very fine, nice Christian book to you all, dear beloved, be ye thus educated...". No! It was an advertisement on spanking. Wilkerson wrote how much good it had done for him to have had frequend spankings from his dad in the "packhouse" in the backyard, and that kind of spankings had made him and what he was. And how he was hoping for a real "packhouse revival" (I read that book in anther language s I'm not sure if the "packhouse" is the right English word. I mean a barn, or something to store your garden tols and stuff.). That the "packhouse revival" would save the nation from being ruined. And he criticized an elder, unknown lady, who had come to him after a meeting to criticize him about his opinions on spanking. He cited her in not-a-very-nice manner and told that these kind of women were a bad influence. And so on. It was not just a nice introduction or a short word of dedication. It was a pro spankin sermon and a criticism against all of those who possibly might be opening their mouths to criticize the book.
I happened to notice that The Christian Family is till in print. It is being sold by several internet book stores. One of them was marketing it with a short recommendation statement by Ruth Graham.
Dear sisters amd mamas, we really are in the minority. The "spanking movement" is well and thriving. One reason for this may be that such many influential Christian leaders are lending their support to it.

By the way, I live in a country where spanking and other corporal punishment is prohibited by law. As far as I know, The book of Larry Christenson has not been available here for many years in the local language, and as far as I have understood it right, Dare to Discipline by Dobson is only available as an abbreviated version. . Books by Ross Campbell are popular here in the Christian circles.
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