ugh! when they pick out tacky clothing - Page 3

Sparrow · 08-17-2015, 12:36 PM

It sounds snooty and I don't care... Most of Chickadees clothes are h&m or baby gap. I get almost everything consignment. At the extreme a whole outfit costs $8. I try to steer clear of Walmart and (now out of Canada) Target.

milkmommy · 08-17-2015, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Sparrow

It sounds snooty and I don't care... Most of Chickadees clothes are h&m or baby gap. I get almost everything consignment. At the extreme a whole outfit costs $8. I try to steer clear of Walmart and (now out of Canada) Target.

This is how I got most of outfits for Cecilia when she was younger. Sadly I cant do this anymore. We don't have consignment type stores here just like good will etc.. My choice for the most part is either spending like $5-$12 an outfit at like Walmart or target etc.. or spending 10-20xs that at a speciality store. I dislike not having another option.

RooMama · 08-17-2015, 09:37 PM

My daughter would have been over the moon over that outfit a few years ago. If it weren't for the dog on it, I would find it adorable for a little girl. It looks very little girlish, it's not nearly grown up enough for a tween or teen. Also, that style is very in, your daughter would not stand out a bit in that outfit.

ETA: just showed the outfit to my daughter, she's 8, starting 3rd grade. She loved it and all of the other suggested outfits on the page, especially the zebra print. She tends toward over the top in every area of her life.

Sparrow · 08-19-2015, 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by milkmommy

This is how I got most of outfits for Cecilia when she was younger. Sadly I cant do this anymore. We don't have consignment type stores here just like good will etc.. My choice for the most part is either spending like $5-$12 an outfit at like Walmart or target etc.. or spending 10-20xs that at a speciality store. I dislike not having another option.

We are lucky to have a good consignment shop here. I can't stand picking through racks and the smells in places like good will and value village hurt my head.

rjy9343 · 08-19-2015, 08:20 AM

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Originally Posted by RooMama

ETA: just showed the outfit to my daughter, she's 8, starting 3rd grade. She loved it and all of the other suggested outfits on the page, especially the zebra print. She tends toward over the top in every area of her life.

Mine is five, but she is all or nothing as well. She can't find the middle of the road with a map and compass or a sheet of very detailed directions. She seems to be a firm believer in go big or go home. And the girl goes big every single time.

Saoirse · 08-23-2015, 06:42 AM

Since my son's SPD makes shopping and then wearing the clothes he picks out so difficult, I really don't care what he wears as long as I don't have to fight him to wear it. I don't care if he doesn't match, the clothes are tacky, or even if they are seasonally inappropriate. If he'll wear it, I let him. The only restrictions I put on his clothes revolve around cleanliness. He can't wear the same shirt two days in a row (that is a slippery slope to him deciding to never wear any other shirts ever again because he likes that ONE).

My DD was 2 when she picked out an orange shirt and pink pants. I decided right then and there that my kids could wear what they want regardless of how awful the outfits look. They are learning to develop their style.

On the other hand, I have absolutely no qualms about looking at DH and saying, "You canNOT wear that, it looks TERRIBLE together. Go change."

2sunshines · 08-23-2015, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by milkmommy

This is how I got most of outfits for Cecilia when she was younger. Sadly I cant do this anymore. We don't have consignment type stores here just like good will etc.. My choice for the most part is either spending like $5-$12 an outfit at like Walmart or target etc.. or spending 10-20xs that at a speciality store. I dislike not having another option.

We don't have any good consignment shops but I find tons of fantastic name brand clothes at good will and salvation army.

Takes longer looking through, but you can get it at a great deal.

milkmommy · 08-23-2015, 11:06 AM

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We don't have any good consignment shops but I find tons of fantastic name brand clothes at good will and salvation army.

Takes longer looking through, but you can get it at a great deal.

Sadly we dont (another thing we could do in other towns) its not as hard for the adult clothes though one does have to search well. For kids its extremely there aren't really any higher ended stores anywhere around here people but from Walmart Target and for "fancy" its like Kohls and sears. Macys and Dillard's are about as fancy as things get around here and its rare for those things to end up at good will. So we jsut dont see that kinda stuff around there parts.

bliss · 08-23-2015, 04:13 PM

I have Big Ugly Feels about this whole topic. A constant theme of my childhood was that the clothes and accessories I liked were tacky, trashy, low-rent, etc. it was really damaging for my mom to look down on everything I found pretty. It was not conducive to my self-esteem to not be able to choose my own clothes because I had 'no taste' and the things I liked weren't good enough. My kids pick their own clothes, period.

2sunshines · 08-23-2015, 04:16 PM

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I have Big Ugly Feels about this whole topic. A constant theme of my childhood was that the clothes and accessories I liked were tacky, trashy, low-rent, etc. it was really damaging for my mom to look down on everything I found pretty. It was not conducive to my self-esteem to not be able to choose my own clothes because I had 'no taste' and the things I liked weren't good enough. My kids pick their own clothes, period.

I agree. Says the mom who cringed inwardly but never let it appear on the outside when my 12 year old daughter wore athletic shorts and an oversized athletic tshirt to church today...

houseforjoy · 08-23-2015, 08:10 PM

Just to clear the air I in no way commented to her about it being tacky!!! Just vented about it here

. I did just finally get it washed (it was in her fall clothes at first but she asked to have it for now). And I do the majority of the clothes shopping so it really just never came up

. I don't really care about matching and such most of the time either (which may be why it took us so long to realize ds was colorblind) anyway I really was just mostly curious what others did

08-17-2015, 12:36 PM	#31
Sparrow Rose Garden Immerse your soul in love. Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Victoria, BC Posts: 17,609	Re: ugh! when they pick out tacky clothing It sounds snooty and I don't care... Most of Chickadees clothes are h&m or baby gap. I get almost everything consignment. At the extreme a whole outfit costs $8. I try to steer clear of Walmart and (now out of Canada) Target. __________________ Manda Mama to: Bear 16.75 Funny and Tender. Larger than life. ENFP Max 14 Affectionate and Spirited. Artist Chickadee 8! She's Sunshine and Song. Born in the caul We have a fur baby. A cat called Charlie

08-17-2015, 09:37 PM	#33
RooMama Rose Garden Who am I? Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 4,377	Re: ugh! when they pick out tacky clothing My daughter would have been over the moon over that outfit a few years ago. If it weren't for the dog on it, I would find it adorable for a little girl. It looks very little girlish, it's not nearly grown up enough for a tween or teen. Also, that style is very in, your daughter would not stand out a bit in that outfit. ETA: just showed the outfit to my daughter, she's 8, starting 3rd grade. She loved it and all of the other suggested outfits on the page, especially the zebra print. She tends toward over the top in every area of her life. __________________ Last edited by RooMama; 08-18-2015 at 06:02 PM.

08-23-2015, 06:42 AM	#36
Saoirse Rose Garden Coming out into the Light! Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 5,307	Re: ugh! when they pick out tacky clothing Since my son's SPD makes shopping and then wearing the clothes he picks out so difficult, I really don't care what he wears as long as I don't have to fight him to wear it. I don't care if he doesn't match, the clothes are tacky, or even if they are seasonally inappropriate. If he'll wear it, I let him. The only restrictions I put on his clothes revolve around cleanliness. He can't wear the same shirt two days in a row (that is a slippery slope to him deciding to never wear any other shirts ever again because he likes that ONE). My DD was 2 when she picked out an orange shirt and pink pants. I decided right then and there that my kids could wear what they want regardless of how awful the outfits look. They are learning to develop their style. On the other hand, I have absolutely no qualms about looking at DH and saying, "You canNOT wear that, it looks TERRIBLE together. Go change." __________________ Pam - MOM to three amazing kids!!! "A victim lives in fear. A Survivor endures. A victim is weak and powerless, paying for what was not her doing. A Survivor has grown strong because she knows the price is not hers to pay, the sin is not hers to atone." - unknown Alis volat propriis SingleFabulousMamas unite!

08-23-2015, 04:13 PM	#39
bliss Rose Garden NEUROSPICY! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Other worlds than these Posts: 13,430	Re: ugh! when they pick out tacky clothing I have Big Ugly Feels about this whole topic. A constant theme of my childhood was that the clothes and accessories I liked were tacky, trashy, low-rent, etc. it was really damaging for my mom to look down on everything I found pretty. It was not conducive to my self-esteem to not be able to choose my own clothes because I had 'no taste' and the things I liked weren't good enough. My kids pick their own clothes, period. __________________ Me, The Surveyor, The Truck Driver, The Landscaper, The SAHM, The Grocery Manager, The Gamer, The Gardener, The Home Improvement Manager, and The Grandkids

08-23-2015, 08:10 PM	#41
houseforjoy Rose Garden trying to live like olaf "this is the best day of my life!... and quite possibly the last!" Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: in the sunshine with my own personal flurry Posts: 9,563	Re: ugh! when they pick out tacky clothing Just to clear the air I in no way commented to her about it being tacky!!! Just vented about it here . I did just finally get it washed (it was in her fall clothes at first but she asked to have it for now). And I do the majority of the clothes shopping so it really just never came up . I don't really care about matching and such most of the time either (which may be why it took us so long to realize ds was colorblind) anyway I really was just mostly curious what others did __________________ Amanda, ENFJ Mommy to my bounty: ds 13 years, dd 12 years, dd 9 years , dd 6 and ds 4 Psalm 13 How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever?How long will you hide your face from me? 2 How long must I take counsel in my soul and have sorrow in my heart all the day?....because I am shaken. 5 But I have trusted in your steadfast love; my heart shall rejoice in your salvation. 6 I will sing to the Lord, because he has dealt bountifully with me.

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