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01-15-2015, 10:57 PM | #1 |
Rose Trellis
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Funeral advice needed
My cousin passed away this evening after a long illness. She lives about 3 hours away. However, the funeral & burial could occur from about 2-6 hours away. If it occurs on Monday, hubs will go with me & will care for our little guy if he gets rammy. However, if it's any other day he won't be able to get off work. I'm really torn because she was close with my mom & I was close with her kids though we drifted in recent years. We don't leave our little guy with any one but my mom so leaving him wouldn't be an option. Anyone else I might consider would either be working or at the funeral. To take him would almost certainly require me to take him out at some point but to not go at all seems disloyal. She has young great grandchildren (younger than my guy of 3) but I don't know if they'll be there or not.
Anyone have any advice? Suggestions? Ugh! I hate this. Last edited by gerberadaisy; 01-15-2015 at 11:48 PM. |
01-15-2015, 11:23 PM | #2 |
Rose Bouquet
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Re: Funeral advice needed
I'm sorry for your loss. There are a lot of variables there, so it would be hard to offer a suggestin until you know more details. But didn't want to read and run.
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01-15-2015, 11:40 PM | #3 |
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Re: Funeral advice needed
I went to a funeral with a baby 5 mos, 2 1/2 and 5 1/2 yr old on my own. Then again, they slept through most of it because of being jetlagged. I wouldn't not go because you have a young child in your hands, even though it's not as easy being on your own.
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01-16-2015, 06:34 AM | #4 |
Rose Trellis
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Re: Funeral advice needed
I would go. Even if you have to take your ds out for part of the service, the fact that you're there will mean a lot to the family. And sometimes having children around at a sad time can be comforting.
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01-16-2015, 06:38 AM | #5 |
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Re: Funeral advice needed
Dh spent a good portion of my father's funeral in the back or the lobby with ds who was two at the time. Sometimes it's about the interaction before and after the service that is most comforting.
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01-16-2015, 08:04 AM | #6 |
Rose Garden
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Re: Funeral advice needed
Go. I went to many funerals with small kids. It's not always fun but it's important. Besides its a good learning opportunity for your son. How do kids ever learn to sit and be quiet if never given the opportunity to try?
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01-16-2015, 08:31 AM | #7 |
Rose Garden
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Re: Funeral advice needed
Go to the funeral if at all possible.
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01-16-2015, 09:07 AM | #8 |
Rose Garden
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Re: Funeral advice needed
I am another that would go. Even if you spend a good portion of the service in another room, being there would mean a lot.
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01-16-2015, 09:59 AM | #9 |
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Re: Funeral advice needed
I would go with my little one. Its better to go and if you have to step out for a little bit its fine. Its better to be there than get criticized for not going at all. Call and find out if they do have a special room or foyer where you can view or listen from.
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01-16-2015, 11:32 AM | #10 |
Rose Trellis
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Re: Funeral advice needed
Thanks ladies. Still haven't heard anything regarding arrangements but looks like I'll most likely be taking him.
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01-16-2015, 12:12 PM | #11 |
Rose Garden
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Re: Funeral advice needed
It is hard but I would go. My little cousins were a bright light at my grandmothers funeral.
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