Positive Discipline - Week 2 - Page 2

Elspeth · 01-13-2015, 08:42 PM

I struggle with providing words of affirmation to my children and my DH (his LL) because I feel like it's a form of ego-stroking, and I don't want to feed insecurity. I don't think I ever needed compliments or anyone to tell me I did such a good job and they love me so much etc, in order to feel loved or appreciated, at least not the way WoA people seem to need it. (My LL is acts of service) I know my DS1 is WoA, but I really need to work on offering encouragement in general. It's SO easy to criticize instead of uplift.

marigold · 01-14-2015, 03:12 PM

I noticed yesterday when my dd showed me a picture she drew that I looked more carefully and then as I said what a great picture it was for such and such reason she really lit up with a great big smile. I too really struggle with encouragement, it is so much easier for me to be negative. This is a lot of fun, challenging, but fun.

Hopetobe · 01-14-2015, 04:28 PM

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Michele123 · 01-14-2015, 07:18 PM

I *think* I'm pretty good at this one. But it's still helpful to be reminded. Even when I'm correcting, I always try to end with something she's done well. It seems to help.

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marigold · 01-18-2015, 09:31 PM

Week 3 - Listen

http://gentlechristianmothers.com/co...86#post5871386

ShepherdsWife · 02-27-2015, 10:51 AM

I am HORRIBLE at words of encouragement. Now, I realize how much I need to work on this with my WHOLE family. I need to PLAN a way to encourage each person at least once a day until it becomes a habit for me.

01-13-2015, 08:42 PM	#16
Elspeth Rose Trellis Hold on tight and pretend it's a plan. Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 1,590	Re: Positive Discipline - Week 2 I struggle with providing words of affirmation to my children and my DH (his LL) because I feel like it's a form of ego-stroking, and I don't want to feed insecurity. I don't think I ever needed compliments or anyone to tell me I did such a good job and they love me so much etc, in order to feel loved or appreciated, at least not the way WoA people seem to need it. (My LL is acts of service) I know my DS1 is WoA, but I really need to work on offering encouragement in general. It's SO easy to criticize instead of uplift. __________________ Mama to Thor (6yo), Loki (4.5yo), Sif (3yo), and Jane (1yo) Breathe in peace, breathe out love. And drink coffee. Lots of coffee.

01-14-2015, 03:12 PM	#17
marigold Rose Trellis Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: home on the hill Posts: 1,593	Re: Positive Discipline - Week 2 I noticed yesterday when my dd showed me a picture she drew that I looked more carefully and then as I said what a great picture it was for such and such reason she really lit up with a great big smile. I too really struggle with encouragement, it is so much easier for me to be negative. This is a lot of fun, challenging, but fun. __________________ Lesli (DYT 2) Wife to Dh since Sept. 2005 Mama to: dd1 - Sept. 2007 ds1 - June 2009 ds2 - April 2011 ds3 - October 2013 dd2 - November 2015 Image already added

01-14-2015, 04:28 PM	#18
Hopetobe Rose Garden Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: "Sun, sun, sun, sunny day" Posts: 3,844	Re: Positive Discipline - Week 2 Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk __________________ Probably on my phone, and Andrea INTP, DYT 4/1 Wife to B ~9yrs Mom to E 3yo & L 1yo 10/13/09

01-14-2015, 07:18 PM	#19
Michele123 Rose Trellis Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Middle of Nowhere, MN Posts: 1,544	Re: Positive Discipline - Week 2 I think I'm pretty good at this one. But it's still helpful to be reminded. Even when I'm correcting, I always try to end with something she's done well. It seems to help. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk __________________ External Processor ENFJ, please excuse my stream of consciousness posts. Battled infertility for 3 1/2 years before DD (PCOS) TTC #2 for 6 months (3 ovulations) Married to DH since Aug 2004 DD born Feb 2012 DS born May 2014 #3 due Aug 2016

01-18-2015, 09:31 PM	#20
marigold Rose Trellis Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: home on the hill Posts: 1,593	Re: Positive Discipline - Week 2 Week 3 - Listen http://gentlechristianmothers.com/co...86#post5871386 __________________ Lesli (DYT 2) Wife to Dh since Sept. 2005 Mama to: dd1 - Sept. 2007 ds1 - June 2009 ds2 - April 2011 ds3 - October 2013 dd2 - November 2015 Image already added

02-27-2015, 10:51 AM	#21
ShepherdsWife Rose Bouquet Full-time Mom to DS 8/13/12, Wife to the Sheep Man, and Rancher to 8000 momma sheep(ewes) :) Join Date: Mar 2013 Posts: 739	Re: Positive Discipline - Week 2 I am HORRIBLE at words of encouragement. Now, I realize how much I need to work on this with my WHOLE family. I need to PLAN a way to encourage each person at least once a day until it becomes a habit for me. __________________ Full-time Mom, Wife, and Sheep Rancher Wife to the "Sheep Man" DS August 2012 DD December 2014

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