peace for your heart and growth in wisdom for theirs.
As a teenager, I would wish aloud that my mother would have spanked me. She didn't. She did, however, utilize shame like a weapon of mass destruction. I couldn't articulate at the time why I thought it was wrong or why I thought spanking would have been better.
I would have been an articulate kid and could easily have made someone trying to make a counterpoint cry.
Praise God that in His mercy, He showed me so many more tools in the years between then and now.