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Old 10-24-2013, 08:08 AM   #1
Rugayatu
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Default How do I help her when I have nothing to give?

There has been a fair amount of anxiety in the air in our home the past two weeks. DH is looking for a new job, we're not sure if we have to move within the next month, baby due in Dec., trying to sell our old house, money issues, etc. I know this has been affecting DD, because her behavior has been steadily deteriorating. She is rude, mouthy, whiny, acting out in ways she NEVER has before, like coloring on furniture and cutting her hair and clothes (she has always been super careful with things like markers and scissors until now). Then, when I remove the scissors/markers/offending object she goes into an absolute fit, screaming at me, thrashing, etc. She has never thrown tantrums like this before! I feel like I don't even know this child. Her screaming, defiance, non-listening, etc. make me so ANGRY. I know my reaction is also partly due to the fact that I am exhausted, anxious, stressed about the job/moving/etc situation and 31 weeks pregnant. I feel completely empty, like I have nothing to give her. When she acts in these ways I want to smack her across the face (I never do!). I end up taking her to her room a lot until she can calm down and stop screaming at me/whining because I just cannot listen to it and don't know what else to do. Or I lock myself in my room for awhile. But, I don't feel I can do that anymore even because I have to watch her every minute now so she doesn't destroy this house that isn't ours! Ugh. Please help me. What do I do?
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wife to hard-working cowboy DH ~ 6/5/2005
mama to sweet and spunky DD ~ 9/2/09
squishy and serene DS ~ 1/12/14
and my angel baby ~ 1/8/2008


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