Gentle Christian Mothers Community - View Single Post - Death linked to Pearls' advice--sensitive

Myrtle · 03-16-2006, 02:57 PM

Most parents I know spank their kids on occassion, but they would never think to go that far. Where was the mother's internal guiding that said, "Seriously, this isn't right." So the Pearls suggest 10 strikes, but if your child is bruised, what are you doing? If her child was unresponsive, beaten to death, why didn't she realize what was happening well before she got to that point? Why didn't she stop?

I don't care what some child-rearing manual says, you have to use some common sense. I don't even do the Bear Hug anymore with dd b/c it freaks her out to be confined, and I saw how it affected her, stopped doing it, and used other ideas from the 5 steps that work better with her.

I am saddened for the children, angry that the Pearls get praised in Christian cirlces for their abuse manuals, and baffled that a mother who supposedly had "good" intentions wouldn't stop when she saw the pain the child was going through.

03-16-2006, 02:57 PM	#24
Myrtle Rose Garden Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 3,890	Re: Death linked to Pearls' advice--sensitive Most parents I know spank their kids on occassion, but they would never think to go that far. Where was the mother's internal guiding that said, "Seriously, this isn't right." So the Pearls suggest 10 strikes, but if your child is bruised, what are you doing? If her child was unresponsive, beaten to death, why didn't she realize what was happening well before she got to that point? Why didn't she stop? I don't care what some child-rearing manual says, you have to use some common sense. I don't even do the Bear Hug anymore with dd b/c it freaks her out to be confined, and I saw how it affected her, stopped doing it, and used other ideas from the 5 steps that work better with her. I am saddened for the children, angry that the Pearls get praised in Christian cirlces for their abuse manuals, and baffled that a mother who supposedly had "good" intentions wouldn't stop when she saw the pain the child was going through. __________________ Growing in grace with my dh (2000) and my precious children - dd (2004) and ds (2006) and dd2 (2008) and ds2 (2011)

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