Titus2:5Catholic

My concern in this section is you're getting into your interpretation of the divorce verses, which is a potential minefield- so many people interpret those verses in different ways. Maybe you could state that the Pearls are talking about apples and oranges; the Biblical injunctions on divorce and remarriage have nothing to do with legal separation from an abusive spouse, and that God says that someone who hurts His little ones are better off to have a milstone around their neck. Or maybe you could state that although you recognize that there are many different interpretations of the divorce verses, you are aware of nowhere in Scripture that commands an abused woman to stay with her abuser? I don't know..... As someone who does not interpret those verses the same way it would be hard to keep listening after that if I was really supportive of the Pearls.

The rest of the letter is good- although, I would leave out your personal experiences. That's just my opinion. I know they can be powerful but the Pearls' and other pro-spanking people are full of warnings against "abused children" who "exaggerate and distort" their teachings. Maybe link or give them a copy of the Amazon review? That way it's not you they're critiquing if they decide to critique the person's view of their experience.

I personally would give the letter to the group. To give it to just one person is begging to start a gossip problem. Let your actions be clear and out in the open; not as much room for misinterpretation.