Why can't you say that the 9yo can't play with those toys?
EVERY TIME something gets thrown, it goes away...it doesn't matter if it's the 2,4, or 7 yr old in our house. If something makes you lose your control over yourself than it's best if it's put away.
If it's a repeat offense it goes away for several days. Did the 9 yr old make amends to the younger sibling? Are there special needs for the 9 yr old?
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