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heartofjoy · 04-17-2018, 11:16 AM

In my area, kids who are teens (14+) usually have their own small group of friends and don't wish to hang out with new people. So they are being social, but they aren't showing up at homeschool events anymore. They are going to the movies/sports/concerts/dances with their friends.

Our big homeschool group died a few years ago. The leadership started charging $60/semester if you participated in less than 3 activities. The MORE activities you participated in, the LESS you paid! You can imagine how that went over. I think it's still going, but it's got to be tiny. Everyone I know left.

My older kids came to park days as long as their friends were coming. They'd rather stay home and get work done than "waste time" hanging out at a park with younger kids.

5th-8th graders still like the activities and social time. I think your activities are ones mine would enjoy, but they probably wouldn't want to go unless they had at least one friend going.

One disadvantage to homeschooling, that I've recently discovered, is that a family can arrange their social life in a very particular manner to see exactly who they want to see. In public school you are in class with people you might not like and you go on field trips with them and they are eating lunch with you, etc. But apparently I've inadvertently raised my kids to think that they must have a friend at everything they do! I'm trying to correct this, but it's hard once they get to the more socially awkward ages.

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04-17-2018, 11:16 AM	#18
heartofjoy Moderator Assign positive intent Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 9,610	Re: Homeschooling Gathering In my area, kids who are teens (14+) usually have their own small group of friends and don't wish to hang out with new people. So they are being social, but they aren't showing up at homeschool events anymore. They are going to the movies/sports/concerts/dances with their friends. Our big homeschool group died a few years ago. The leadership started charging $60/semester if you participated in less than 3 activities. The MORE activities you participated in, the LESS you paid! You can imagine how that went over. I think it's still going, but it's got to be tiny. Everyone I know left. My older kids came to park days as long as their friends were coming. They'd rather stay home and get work done than "waste time" hanging out at a park with younger kids. 5th-8th graders still like the activities and social time. I think your activities are ones mine would enjoy, but they probably wouldn't want to go unless they had at least one friend going. One disadvantage to homeschooling, that I've recently discovered, is that a family can arrange their social life in a very particular manner to see exactly who they want to see. In public school you are in class with people you might not like and you go on field trips with them and they are eating lunch with you, etc. But apparently I've inadvertently raised my kids to think that they must have a friend at everything they do! I'm trying to correct this, but it's hard once they get to the more socially awkward ages. Sent from my SM-G930P using Tapatalk __________________ Desiree, mom to 5 sweet blessings, Lacy 24, Jordan 22, Joanna 20, Emma 19, and Ethan 17

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