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10-02-2006, 01:49 PM

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I really like your straight-forward responses in this thread, Danielle, and your honesty has helped keep this conversation moving in a productive direction - IMO, anyway.

Thank you!

I always liked Makeesha, too; she's a champ at firm boundaries.

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I did want to mention two realizations that have helped me--one is recognizing that while certain behavior may not be acceptable, that doesn't mean that I can force it to stop. I here you saying 'having a fit is not acceptable', which is ok if you mean 'it's not something that I want to see him doing at 10' but if you mean 'therefore I have to make it stop now', you're likely setting yourself up for frustration. I find that if I can remind myself to relax in the middle of a fit by ds, take a deep breath and remember, 'I can try to help him stop (while still respecting the boundary--I'm not going to revoke the limit just to make him stop crying), but I cannot make him stop', this helps me keep what I'm doing in perspective.

A lot of wisdom, there, for someone on their first child. You'de think I'd get that by now, seeing that my 9 and 6 yold kids are turning out pretty well.

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Really??? Nawwwww....

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