In response to the OP:
Is it weird that I kind of assume that all pastors/teachers/Christians are punitive unless they have expressly said otherwise?
I'm wary of anything and everything that comes into my hand with a 'Christian' label because I've never known Christians who weren't punitive until I came here. It is all I've ever experienced.
His theology doesn't surprise me, though it's certainly still sad.
It makes me wonder what percentage of Christians are punitive minded (both theologically and parenting-wise) and how many have a true understanding of Grace as it applies to every area of our lives.