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Originally Posted by amytug

screams at the top of her lungs beause she didn't get her way. What do I do?

Is she screaming words or just screeching? I'd tell her to go scream in her room or outside and then I'd walk away. I'd reflect feelings, too, "You're upset b/c..." Give her words to *say* her upset instead of screaming...script what you'd like to hear, i.e., "I'm so disappointed!" "Wow, I feel angry!" "I'm upset." And then a way for her to self-calm...what kind of tools does she have for that?

Originally Posted by amytug

kicks her brother out of my sight. he syas she did - she lies and says "no I dind't- he kicked himself" or "no Id idn't hit dayna she hit her own head into the wall." what do I do?

"You may wish that's what happened. You need to apologize. How can you help him/her feel better?"

Originally Posted by amytug

stomps across the house, what do I do?

"I'm sorry you're frustrated. That's rude to stomp. Try again with softer feet."

Originally Posted by amytug

slams doors, what do I do?

Same thing as above...a try again with a gentle door closing.

Originally Posted by amytug

She's very very difficult...

I'm sorry.

Originally Posted by amytug

Right nowshe is "tomato staked" meaning she's not leaving my side and will probably help me make dinner, etc. but really I dont know what else to do.. or if this is even ok.

That sounds fine.

I would teach her some skills to help with her frustration that you can then direct her to in the future. What are some ways she calms down now? Reading? Coloring? Staring out the window?