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Originally Posted by amytug

screams at the top of her lungs beause she didn't get her way. What do I do?

I'm probably not the best person to give advice on screamers I have one but he's younger and Autistic so needs an actual physical boundary to the scream. I put my hand over his mouth and gently sh sh sh sh in his ear. I also whisper to him so he has to stop screaming to hear me. "I know you are upset, but you may not scream, it's ok to be angry tell me you're angry but please don't scream"

kicks her brother out of my sight. he syas she did - she lies and says "no I dind't- he kicked himself" or "no Id idn't hit dayna she hit her own head into the wall." what do I do?

Well for the "he kicked himself" (hahaha clever girl) "now why would your brother kick himself then come tattle on YOU? He could easily say you did something without injuring himself. I don't think he kicked himself at all. Go get a book and read in your room please" You've let her know that you are on to her and given her time to mull it over. For the I didn't hit dayna thing...maybe she didn't Maybe she "helped" Dayna hit her head on the wall...but doesn't consider it a vicious act. It helps to ask for a play by play. "Ok, how did dayna hit her head? Where were you? etc.

stomps across the house, what do I do?

"Come back here right now! You will walk nicely through the house"

slams doors, what do I do?

Go open the door and have her shut the door nicely.

She's very very difficult...



Right nowshe is "tomato staked" meaning she's not leaving my side and will probably help me make dinner, etc. but really I dont know what else to do.. or if this is even ok.

HUGS The above is what I do with my 7yr old when he's having fits. It allows him to do things over and act more reasonably with guidance.