Tantrums are allowed but mine needs to have it in her room.
I will hold and comfort a distressed crying child but I need her to at least begin to calm down she is safest and most secure in her room so thats were we take our big feelings.
Try rewording some of your nos to becomes yes. Instead of stop running say lets sit over here and read a book give the what they can do instead of lots of what they shouldn't.
Deanna