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Old 01-15-2012, 12:57 PM   #10
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Default Re: Common sense and intuition

I knew you were not invalidating my experiences and were trying to understand. (MY INTJ husband and I have had similar conversations on other topics).
The hitting newborns were homeschoolers that moved in the same circles, but not close family friends. My family was shocked at the very idea of striking a young baby like that for waking in middle of the night. My family was more of a mainstream punitive, you know spank for open rebellion and teach them to fall asleep by themselves, but not to expect a four month old to sleep all night.
I think that even when you have a more standard "Christian" upbringing, if you cannot just know things like you do, then people like me who need to see something are going to get sucked into BW. Ezzo writes very well. His warnings are dire and jibe with what you have heard. He then offers you a formula that will work.
I did not get sucked into it, but I know a couple of women who did. And his books made them feel like this whole parenting thing won't be so bad. They both regret it. One has a child that is very like Ivy and she did not thrive to say the least. (I shudder to think what would have happened to Ivy) and one has a very angry toddler she is having to relearn how to parent. Neither woman is all about herself and making her kids not inconvenience her. In fact, I would not hesitate to say that both are excellent mothers. One was away from her support system and liked the reassurance the book gave.The other did not ever have a good support system to begin with, when the only mom she knew told her to do it, she did it. But unlike me, she has the intuition to figure out that this was not a great program. Unfortunately, it took her baby losing serious weight before her husband was willing to listen to her and get on board with something else.
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