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MarynMunchkins · 04-05-2005, 09:17 PM

Well, I'm a Baptist in the South.

Spanking = Godly here.

I had Babywise given to me at my baby shower for Doug, and my own mother gave me TTUAC.

While I started off a fairly natural parent, I was very punitive.

Some of my conversion occured because my kids are hn. Schedule and strict order simply doesn't work with those type of children, and I made myself and them miserable trying to make it all work. I tended to relax a little more and not make an issue of things because they reacted so violently to them.

Some of my conversion came from arguing on a message board.

I actually spent time online because I was alone with 2 hn kids, and I desperately needed something to keep myself sane. So I argued for spanking, and had a bunch of wonderful people try to convince me that I was wrong.

The straw that broke the camel's back was my parent's treatment of me and my children, and realizing how their style of parenting had made me miserable. I didn't want that for my kids. Finding GCM gave me some concrete ideas about how to stop spanking and what to do instead.

I'll type more later...my dh and I are going to enjoy the quiet.

04-05-2005, 09:17 PM	#4
MarynMunchkins Deactivated Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 38,127	Re: what made you change? Well, I'm a Baptist in the South. Spanking = Godly here. I had Babywise given to me at my baby shower for Doug, and my own mother gave me TTUAC. While I started off a fairly natural parent, I was very punitive. Some of my conversion occured because my kids are hn. Schedule and strict order simply doesn't work with those type of children, and I made myself and them miserable trying to make it all work. I tended to relax a little more and not make an issue of things because they reacted so violently to them. Some of my conversion came from arguing on a message board. I actually spent time online because I was alone with 2 hn kids, and I desperately needed something to keep myself sane. So I argued for spanking, and had a bunch of wonderful people try to convince me that I was wrong. The straw that broke the camel's back was my parent's treatment of me and my children, and realizing how their style of parenting had made me miserable. I didn't want that for my kids. Finding GCM gave me some concrete ideas about how to stop spanking and what to do instead. I'll type more later...my dh and I are going to enjoy the quiet.

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