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Old 10-17-2020, 05:28 PM   #8
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Default Re: Conversations about sleep training

Thanks everyone for your comments.

Just to clarify, in initially expressing my concerns, I focused merely on what I saw as unrealistic and potentially dangerous expectations of specific time frames they had been told to expect. I told them that I thought such long periods of sleep were not realistic for many infants of such young age, expressed that I did not want them to feel shame or failure if it didn't work out, and recommended running the plan by their pediatrician and making sure baby was still gaining if she was sleeping long periods. I'm not unhappy with what I said but I just dumped it on them and then had to leave. I should have asked more questions and had more of a dialogue.

I did see them again, but it was across the room at a socially distanced gathering. I neither avoided them nor sought them out, and they did not approach us. They seemed preoccupied with the people they had come with so I did not intrude. I'm fine with it. The whole episode has prompted some good internal reflection on how I handle (or perhaps don't handle) difficult or confrontational conversations, which I think is valuable.
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