[Heather Micaela]

Originally Posted by Domina

No, that's a really good point. I think what my friend is saying is, you can't depend on a woman's passion for her baby to keep the baby safe, because not EVERYONE feels it right away. Could be due to medical issues, pressures in her life, drugs she's on, etc. You just don't know.

So there is some value in women having a set of principles to draw from in case the feelings take a while to kick in.

Hope I didn't hurt your feelings. That's all I was trying to say.

Originally Posted by rjy9343

I did not feel anything that close to love until Ivy was around ten weeks or so. But to say that I was indifferent or considered her a nuisance is harsh. Just because I was not totally in love with my baby as soon as I conceived her does not mean I found her to be inconvenient. Just that I needed time to get to know her and to develop a relationship with her. I also have to wonder how many new moms cover their fear by pretending they could not care less about the baby.

I have had both medicated and natural births. I have not had that instant connection with ANY of my babies - even the one that I tried so hard to concieve after two losses and had 100% natural birth with and picked the most family orineted name of all of mine for. But seconds after her birth i was already protecting her insisting they not give her the Hep B shot that I disagree with. I can know to protect and care for my child and GIVE him/her love before it is a feeling