AMy that was what I was thinking of, but I didn't realise my parents had heard it there. It HAD to have come from Dobson, becuase to my knowlege that is the only parenting guru my parents ever read.
My Dad gave us that speech almost verbatim one time when we were kids. I felt very sad when he told us that, but I squashed it, because of course my daddy had to be right, ykwim?
Now- I'd save my kids. And I'd expect DH to save our kids too. THey are small and less capable- I'm an adult for pete's sake. I am fully capable- and I can do some rescueing too.