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02-13-2009, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Chris3jam

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Originally Posted by debf

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Originally Posted by Chris3jam

The problem with that sort of research is that hindsight is 20/20. The link between nature and nurture is not fully understood. We can 'guess' all we want, but we'll never be able to explain what may already be "misfired" naturally in someone that is brought out by or intensified by nurture, or if it would have happened any way, or why sometimes those with unbelievably horrendous childhoods can grow up to be some of the nicest people. One example is "The Boy Called It". Why did I turn out so incredibly different from my family? From the same family, one sees variation. No one can explain that yet. I think there is an incredible amount of danger in ascribing certain behaviours, and the way a child 'turns out', to just the way that child was raised.

I agree with you. I wouldn't want to say that a child is doomed by bad parenting. It is amazing how resilient the human spirit is. But I also think that we need to be aware of the effect of different types of parenting on some children.

But, how would you recognize that baby from any other? Say, the Ezzo mother that genuinely wants, and thinks she is doing, the best and Godly thing for her child. Say you said to her, "Hey, this baby of yours is wired different. You will mar him for life if you keep this up." and, since she can see that, changes her parenting of the child. I cannot think that *any* parent, Ezzo or not, does not have anything but the best interest of her child at heart, even though she could be mis-lead or ignorant (I was both). The guilt is enormous. And we haven't even talked about the grace of God that can change things.

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Originally Posted by debf

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Originally Posted by JoyInTheSpirit

It makes me wonder if abuse, besides the physical aspects of it, leads to underdevelopment of the temporal lobe.

I just got an idea for my next abnormal psychology paper.

I think that would be a great paper!

Read "The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog". . . .there's been some research done in that area. . .. you could expand. . . . .

I believe that God's Grace is amazing and can heal many wrongs. God also seemed to have made kids resilient, thankfully.

I have known several people with anger toward God or Christianity because of their childhoods. Their parents probably loved them and were well meaning but their mistakes still hurt their child's faith.

my guess is that if a mother changes her parenting style her kids will respect her more, especially if she admits her mistakes to them.

I didn't mean to imply though that personality is locked in by a person's abusive past or that we can't heal or that changes in parenting don't have a profound effect on a child.

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